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writes: I am hurting such a lot, i dont know what to do for the best.I still love my boyfriend/ex. he gives me mixed messages. I am so confused, i wrote him a letter 2 weeks ago putting my cards on the table and asked him to reply. He has not replied properly, i have seen him twice since, where the first time he was really making an effort and seemed to being kind and loving again. Then a week later we had another date but he seemed so cold to begin with, he did warm up a bit and left me with a mighty big kiss at the end of the night, but then I have not heard from him for 8 days now. I just dont understand why he treats me like this. It has been like this for months, sometimes caring and loving other times the opposite. I dearly want him to have some courage and just tell me what he wants or doesnt want. i wish so much he could just talk to me, so that things can end nicely if thats what has to happen. I dont know what to do. I had decided not to contact him again and to see if he got in contact with me after our date last week, but it is absolutely crippling me not to pick up the phone. should i call and ask what is going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): hi
i really empathise with you , after dating someone for 2 years which was very up and down , he suddenly told me he didnt really love me , and kind of left me out on a limb. about ten days later he contacts me , i tell him im not over him , but tried to be a mate , the first time we met up he's all over me then ignores me again. i told him to leave me be , and havent heard from him . i too am desperate to see him and talk , but still to emotional to be level headed about it. all i can suggest is you strive some of that frustration into something for you , whether it be work , or taking up some sort of hobby, take it one day at a time , and let things be whatever they will be , im sure there are many of us in the same situation out there ,and if he really wants you , let him make the first move.
take care and keep looking to the future!!
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reader, helpful## +, writes (12 November 2006):
hi there
ever heard the saying you dont know what you have got till its gone, i would say dont contact him and if he contacts you and wants to meet up for the first time give him the brush off and if you hear nothing after that cut your losses and move on it will be hard but you will get over it.
good luck!!!!!!
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