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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been gong out with my bouyfriend for 3 years now. I love him to bits anf he is the same with meWhen we got together we were quite younge and we have grown up with each otherhowever when it came to sex i never managed to have an orgasm. And it was realy upsetting my boyfriend so i talked to some friends about it and they suggested that i was to fake itso i did and it realy made my boyfriend happyBut i realy hate doing it so i tryed telling him that i hadnt managed to climax and he was very obviously dissapointed.But he dosnt last that long in bed and i havent even got started and he is already finished.any one got suggestions in helping our sex life get bettermany thanks
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reader, Ares  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Anon,
Communication is the key to a great sex life. I would suggest that sit and talk with your BF and discuss this matter. Here is a link you may find if help.
Good luck.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (23 April 2008):
You're boyfriend shouldn't be upset! He Pops off and the it's over! He needs to get it back up and give you some more until you have your climax! He's being selfish! Don't fake anymore orgasms, tell him what you like. after he comes, tease him so he gets erect again. If he was really into you, he would be able to go two to three rounds, which should be long enough to give you the big O
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (23 April 2008):
 You wouldn't be the first girl to fake an orgasm - and you shouldn't worry that it's wrong to pretend to be having one. If it makes him happy, it really shows how much you want to please him and that's good.
But, and a very big "but", you're missing out and the problem you're having is so often a problem girls have with young men! To try to persuade a man that there's more to sex than ramming it in and doing it as fast as possible isn't an easy task, particularly if you are young and relatively inexperienced yourself.
So, a few ideas (and anyone under age or sensitive to such matters should look away NOW...)
Get yourself on top - where you control the speed, the angle, the "action". It always works for me!!
Concentrate on more foreplay. You know where you want to be touched, kissed, stroked etc. Teach him. You want him to bring you closer to the orgasm before "the act" itself. He'll enjoy doing it, if you approach it carefully. There's far more to sex and to enjoying each other's bodies than the act of intercourse. Explore.
Think about whether he can be persuaded to try any of the creams etc that make his parts less sensitive and therefore delay his orgasm. There are loads of them available, some more effective than others. There are plenty of perfectly reputable sites on the Internet where such items can be ordered and arrive in plain wrappers with no clue as to what's inside - but be careful of the scammers. It shouldn't be too hard to find somewhere reliable - look for a seller that provides a full company name, address, telephone number and contact details for a start.
And while you are on that sort of web site, browse around for other things too - and get your boyfriend to do the same, preferably with you. An appreciation of what is offered to make sex more enjoyable can lead to all sorts of ideas that you would never have thought of.
Above all, remember that sex between two people who love each other is one of the greatest gifts we have. It can be, and should be, the most exciting and pleasurable experience of your life. That doesn't mean it's going to be perfect every time, or that you'll see fireworks and have "the earth move" whenever you do it. But if the earth never moves for you, you really need to make every effort possible to find the solution that really does it for you - and you will, if you make that effort and if he helps you with it.
Good luck - and, more than anything, have fun finding it.
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