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writes:I met an awesome man, i got cheated on in my last 3 year relationship...before i met this new guy, when we were talking i didn't really pay mind to him, but as we got to know one another i began to like him a lot, i fell in love in just 5 months...lately things have been getting serious because i have taken nurmeous trips to see him in california, i live in texas...i usually don't travel a lot and i did for him. I finally found a guy i really can see myself with but for some reason when he is working or in a no service area or if he doesn't call me much during gthe day, i feel he's out with someone else. i have a huge problem trusting. so like any normal girl, i brought it up to him and of course he gave me the best comfort and security any girl can ask for. yet i have moments where i can't trust anyone. and I don't know how to trian my brain not to think negatively. any tips? i don't want to lose him, as i see myself with him. We are both of age to finally start thinking marriage/family and its been a while i haven't seen myself with anyone else but him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 March 2012):
 IF he has given you no reason to doubt him you are just going to have to learn to trust. It’s hard to do in any relationship but it’s extra hard in an LDR.
What would you do if he was local and you didn’t talk during the day what would make you trust him then?
I can’t tell you how to learn to trust him as I always trust a person until THEY give me a reason to not trust them.
WHAT I want to speak to is the fact that it’s an LDR and you are traveling to see him. Has he come to you? Who shoulders the cost of your trips?
What are your plans for ending the distance? Which one of you will move?
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