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female
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anonymous
writes:I'm 17 and Me and my boyfriend of two and a half years dont have the "perfect magazine" relationship, we argue a fair bit, mostly over useless crap that we then forget about the next day, or the fact he lives two hours away, but not that long ago, he broke up with me and we didnt talk for a while, he seemed to cope with the break uo but i was a complete mess, however but we got back together in the end. Which we are both really happy about and our relationship is much much better/happier now we talked things through.However, I get really angry and bitchy with him now.I get nervous and paranoid if he doesnt reply to my texts or calls. and it upsets me more if he doesnt reply when hes with his friends.I dont like him seeing friends who are girls either, as it makes me jealous.The other day I got really sad, and he was talking to his friend over the internet they were playing games online, so he culdnt really talk much on the phone and play the game, he really likes computer games but sometimes it makes me feel like hes chooses computer games and his friends over me, as i cried on the phone and he said "i cant talk to you both at once".. which ended the call.When he does reply to my texts I get all panicy what they might say, i worry that if i do something out of line he'll break up with me. i'm tried being the perfect girlfriend but he noticed i wasnt being myself and told me to stop trying so hard, which was comforting, but now i'm just constantly on edge.I really feel like im going to have a breakdown and im only 17!I feel like im being really controlling and needy and obviously he must of noticed too.When reading over this post i realise how pathetic i sound, yet i can't help it.Please help me.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 It sounds like you are feeling quite insecure in the relationship emotionally, as you said, when you broke up, he was ok, and you were a mess. Now it seems he might be playing it a little cool, which is making you a crazy mess - we've all been there :o(
Maybe you need to take a bit of a step back from the relationship, gather yourself together, and get back to how you were in the beginning of the relationship.
It sounds like you feel a loss of control in the relationship, so get into things you can control, hang out with friends/family more, get back into a hobby you might have abandoned, soend more time on school work etc...
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