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writes: I've had this problem with my teacher at school. I've been having feelings for him for like a year and i don't know how to deal with it.I'm 14 and i've been having dreams where i have kissed my teacher, he's only 20 something and i know i can't tell him or anything because i am only a student but he's so nice and warm and friendly. It feels like it's eating me from the inside out. i really want to tell my friend as well. She is one of my closest friends and has always understood me in the past about anything even when i told her that i used to have a crush on this teacher (even though i still did at the time, quite strongly), she had never told a secret i have told her and i feel it would really bring the burden off my chest.My teacher is my music teacher as well as my form tutor and it has got to the point i have started acting awkwardly around him by being very quiet and not making much eye contact, stuff like that. Every time he looks at me he smiles and yesterday we were talking and he said he might bite me (in a jokey way) which totally set my hormones off inside!I get on with him well but i need to find a way to deal with my feelings. I know it's probably not love just a strong crush, but because i already had it for a year (or a bit longer), sometimes i want to break down and cry because i need to talk to someone about it. My parents are definitely not the answer to talk to, so i thought someone on here could help me in my predicament. I feel really strongly about him. it's not lust i really feel something for him (in the zone about 7 crush------*---Love). Please help and give me advice please! :) i will be really thankful. (also i've been having these 'different' dreams with him in it and we begin to kiss and that kinda stuff [need i say more]) i need some advice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, this is a reply to the most recent reply to my question or just someone else who want to help :)i've tried everything to try and get my mind of him, but nothing has worked! i've been keeping my distance and thinking of him as just an aquaintance or friend but my mind always slides back to the fact that i REALLY like him! plus, in choir he always gets up close to people when their singing, like there would be a fingers width between him and us. and the worst thing is i think my friend is starting to knowtice and not the one i wanted to talk about it with :Obut the worst thing is, everybody likes a guy who has warm brown eyes, yes? and i am no different, and everytime he smiles and looks at me i feel like i'm melting when i get a shiver and i just lose my self in his warm brown eyes! and every day it's crazy how much i'd love to kiss him.i'm running out of options! i need some big advice here :) thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): Hi this is basically the exact situation I was in its actually quite scary how similar it is. I ve just left highschool in September and I am now In college but I had the biggest crush on my music teacher. It started when I first saw him when I was 11 so I know exactly what your talking about :) it didn't help that I chose music to study at GCSE level with him as my teacher, seeing him every was just torture it also made me shy and quite because I didn't want to say anything stupid or something he don't agree with.
In these kind of situations everyone needs someone to talk to so if you trust your friend tell her otherwise it will eat you up....believe me!
We all know that everyone's going to put 'nothing can EVER happen' which is true but its not as thou you're going to run up to him a confess your undying love :) I think the best way you could deal with this is to distract your self, try not to think about him and hang around your friends more. What worked with me is that I distanced myself away from him which was difficult considering I saw him daily.The more you focus on something else the less you will focus on him. After a couple of months after I left I felt a lot better don't get me wrong I still have some sort of feelings for him but there defiantly not as strong as they were (thank god!) .....don't worry everyone goes through this and I promise you it get better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2012): He is your teacher, so no nothing can happen, because if it did he would lose his job and probably face jail time. I am sure you don't want that to happen. The best thing to do is start focusing your mind on other things, on your studies, spending time with your friends and start looking at boys your own age. I know it's not as easy as that, but you have to try. It doesn't matter if he likes you back, chances are he doesn't, you are a student and still only a kid as far as he is concerned. Legally he isn't allowed to think of you in that sort of way, and any decent man his age wouldn't be interested in anyone your age. If anyone finds out about this crush, it could cause a lot of problems. A friend of mine had a crush on a teacher, she told a friend and someone else overheard and thought it would be funny to send a letter to the teacher with a condom in it, and signed it in her name. She was called into the principle's office to face the principle, the teacher in question, his wife and the police. Of course it got around the school and even though the truth came out in the end, it was a horrible and humilating experience, and she ended up having to change schools. I hope this helps. Good Luck
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