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writes:I'm 16 years old and I have been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for a year and half now and we had sex and when we did it i was a virgin... I lost my virginity with him.. we were really in love but now things are not the same that we have very big issues in understanding each other so i dont think that we would continue anymore in being together... I actually didnt have sex, It was only that i broke it and we couldnt do it properly cuz we stopped.. I dont know what to do now... My mom loves me soo much and i dont want to tell her this and let her down. what am i to do?.. Do u think i could fall in love again some day and get married?.. I'm really worried that i would never fall in love again and get married to someone who i wanna live my life with... plz help me.. i really need help.. Is it very important to be a virgin.. I'm not anymore :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): Most boys at your age are just so horny all of the time, for women it's hard to understand that they are driven so differently than us. If you had a kind of 'half sex' experience with him then so what....everyone has sexual stuff in their closet, including your mum probably!! (ick sorry!!)The other advice you have had is so good, really please don't fret abut this, it's so normal what you have explained, and anyone who loves you really won't care at all. Relax, you will have a great life ahead of you if you don't spend it beating yourself up.
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Yes you are - for all practical purposes, you are still a virgin. Do not agonoise over this and spoil the rest of your life for an early-teens fumble.
The two of you are the only ones that know about this, and if he didn't manage it properly, he is hardly likely to brag about it, is he?
You maybe broke a little bit of skin, which could have happened just as easily by riding a bike or playing sports, so forget it and look to the future: this didn't happen, OK?
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reader, lonelygirl25  +, writes (6 May 2010):
to help clear things out of the way why do you have to be a virgin? is it culteral or just family expectations?and yes you will find love again. and probably many more times in the years to come. i thnk its safe to say we have all been there and were so in love that when it didnt work out figured the world was over and no one else would ever make us feel that way again. it does happen again and each time it usually gets better and ocasionally there is a bad relationship thrown into the mix. dating many people will help you find the one that truly makes you happy you have to experience the good and bad of each relationship to find out what are the qualities you really like in a person ad eventually find someone with those qualities that feels the same way about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): It is not a big deal nowadays not to be a virgin. You are young and you just feel guilty that you broke your virginity and will dissapoint your mum which is very very normal at your age. I broke my virginity when i was 16 too. i didn't even get an orgasm or enjoy it. After that i broke up with my boyfriend and he was my first boyfriend. i felt very guilty that i had broken my virginity and was sad and crying like the whole week. Am sure you will get married in the future to someone who loves u very much. You will get over it it's normal and if u want ur mum to know you can tell her what happened. she will be upset with you but am sure she will appriciate that you have told her.good luck!
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reader, EDLion  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 First of all, relax, it's okay......... You can still have a normal life and fall in love again and, yes, find the 'one' you're waiting for. I mean, come on, its not like the end of the world of something...... About your mom, i think it's better to let her know, that's what i'll do and consult her. But if your mom is like the really strict and scary type, i suggest you dont.......... Anyways, if you're not in good terms with your b/f, do what you need to. You'll have to talk to him about it and see what's really inside his mind........... And solve it together, like a real couple!
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Everyday we all make mistakes. I have made plenty of mistakes in my life. I am not a woman, so I don't know if I can give suitable advice. But you will just have to move on somehow.We live, we make mistakes, we suffer, we die. It's the human condition.No-one gets through life unscathed. We all experience bullying, disappointments, let-downs, and occasional fun.Good things happen. And bad things happen.You might need to speak to a counsellor about all this. It's a complicated situation. You might still be too young to understand that this is not such a big deal. Not many people stay virgins forever.I'm not saying you're a kid. I'm just saying that in four or five years time, you might look back at this and understand things better.I hope that helps.
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