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*yder100
writes:hi basically ive been with this girl for only a week which might make you think why is he getting all worried but when i first met her we both just clicked and it was different from everyone else, the stuff she said to me and what i said 2 her it made me feel special and i made her feel special, we felt like we deserved each other. ive been hurt in the past and she has to and so she wants to take it slow which i said was fair enough i understood that. so why is it she lacks communitcation with me and i feel like i make all the effort? ive told her im not being obsessive or anything but surely communictaion counts and if she really liked me like that then why does she ever ring me or text or anything? it really hurts me, thanks
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reader, ryder100 +, writes (9 September 2007):
ryder100 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, i spoke to a few older friends and they said that perhaps she might be trying to have me wrapped round her little finger. she said she was ill and wasnt coming out but she finds time for her friends. is this just normal or is she just shy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Hi.
OK you gotta be cool about this, worrying about it is just going to make things harder for you. Take a step back and see the situation from a calm perspective and deal with things as they come up.
Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): The worry you’re feeling well she wants you to feel that way,
Let me explain you see most girls or young women are scared of rejection as young men are too however
Some Girls have heard about most boys talking to there friends about clingy ex girlfriends who constantly call or text
Because they’re needy, Your girlfriend she’s young and she doesn’t want to start out like she’s dependant on you so she’s backing,
Off to test the water the more you come to her and show her your going nowhere the more secure she will feel and then you will have you communication needs met most probably,
Show her with your actions woo her I know it sounds cliché (old fashioned) but it will help you to both to feel more secure in this new relationship your building,
Good Luck and remember always follow your heart and speak the truth in love,
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Hi!! I'll try and give you an insight into the female mind here! I would guess that this girl probably doesnt want to come on too strong or appear desperate. when you are a girl you are always told to let the guy come to you and let him do all the chasing and thats probably why she doesnt initiate the texting/ringing. I know that when i first got with my boyfriend i let him do all the texting ringing for the first little while until we were a bit more comfortable with each other and then it became more equal. if you're worried that she doesnt feel the same then see does she text you back usually? does she appear interested when your'e together? it sounds like she is to me...so dont take it personally really.. if i was just with a new guy i would be acting exactly the same way as her.if its getting to you that badly maybe you could bring it up jokingly? Im sure that in a few weeks it will be more equal. take care xx
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (7 September 2007):
Your building her interest in you way out of proportion. This big click exists only in your mind.
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