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writes:Hey, well I've just got back from seeing my boyfriend and i'm a little upset. We were at his mates house and my bus was going to arrive in 15 minutes and he wouldn't just come outside with me and say bye properly or just walk me to the bus stop. It was dark and I wanted him to walk me because we hadn't been alone all day and he hardly talked to me while I was at his mates. I don't know why.. we usually kiss lots and are very touchy feely and you know.. cuddling and stuff but today he was having none of it. Well anyway he eventually came outside with me and he started kissing me then he said I'm only walking you to here and I was scared.. I didn't want to walk to the bus stop on my own.. (sounds sad but I'm a girl and I had to walk through town). I could tell he knew I was upset.. my eyes were watering and no matter how much I asked him he wouldn't come and it upsets me how he just won't do little things for me. Should I say something to him or just leave it? I don't want to be easy on him because I've done that before with previous boyfriends and that didn't turn out well.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): That is a cruel thing to do. Your safety isn't a little thing, it's a hugely important thing.
The little things are what make a relationship.
I think you should be straightforward with him, if he's not going to make the effort to make you feel wanted when you're with him then you shouldn't put in the effort to catch the bus to his friends house.
I can't believe that he refused even when you had tears in your eyes, that's not very caring at all!
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reader, DollyShot  +, writes (8 January 2008):
Say something, say something! Take him aside when you're in a calm situation and just tell him that you would have felt more comfortable if he had walked you to the bus stop. It's always important to be honest with your boyfriend, otherwise, how will he learn to do it in the future.
As long as you are logical about the discussion and tell him why you want that from him then he should understand.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Maybe , it is because of his mates he acted cool towards you.Whatever his reasons is only known to him.Probably to let his mate see that he is no sissy or pander to girls.It is callous to let you walk alone in the dark. He should be more thoughtful of your safety and wellbeing. I guess, he overlooked the fact or he has not grown up yet.I think you should let it pass because whatever you tell him , would be like criticizing him.Maybe , the next time you are in such a situation , you should tell him to accompany you because you are scared of walking alone in the dark and need his company and protection.Act like a damsel in distress and it would bring out the hero or knight in the man .
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