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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and i love him a lot and i really want to have sex, and im sure he does too.. but im so nervous and i don’t have a lot of confidence. So i need help.. how can i be more confident of my body??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2016):
 How long is a while? Have you both spoke about having sex? Are you sure he is ready and wants it as much as you? At your age it can be confusing.
Being nervous is normal, but if you and your boyfriend are comfortable around each other there should be no reason for being nervous, however you both need to be able to talk about sexual stuff before even attempting him. So talk to him and see what he thinks.
Work on your confidence before attempting sex, as you don't want to be worrying about everything. Remember that your boyfriend would not be with you if he did not find you attractive. The body issues you have may very well be the parts he loves about you. Remember he is not going to judge you he loves you. I agree with the others, go to the doctor together, get on birth control and get some condoms and be safe.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 October 2016):
 I'd say for starters go have a check up and get on birth control. TALK to your doctor about how LONG it takes the birth control to take FULL effect (can vary from brand to brand/ type to type) Then GO buy condoms and learn how to put them on. Practice on a carrot/zucchini whatever...
Take control and responsibility and don't just let lust rule you.
If you can do those things you might feel more ready or you might decide that Urgh, I'm not ready for ALL that. Which means... you aren't ready for sex.
There really IS no hurry to have sex, you know that, right?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 October 2016):
 How long is a while?
Have you got condoms available? Are you on birth control?
You need to talk to your GP about safe sex, please. Then, only have sex when you're truly ready - that means going slowly and waiting until you feel comfortable enough within yourself.
You also need to have a talk with your boyfriend about it before anything gets sexual, so you're both on the same page. You can't just be sure he wants it; you need to be responsible enough to have a proper talk with him about it beforehand.
Maybe even go to the doctor together, for that safe sex chat. If you can do that together and truly listen, then that's a great step towards being mature enough to have sex.
Please don't rush it, OP. If you don't feel confident enough in your body, you're not ready. I was the same and my boyfriend and I were 19 and 20, taking it very slowly, not removing any clothes for months because I wasn't comfortable enough with myself, working our way up to making love.
Try watching movies in pyjamas, then underwear, then shoulder massages with underwear still on, then less clothing - *only* when you feel ready, have had the conversations with him and your doctor, are on birth control for a couple months already (and at the time) and have in-date condoms.
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