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writes:I have read post here from younger ladies some who are attracted to older men much older than themselves like decades.Now I am only interested the legal age ladies as in my state that would be 18 where I live. I am attracted to a young lady who is 19 and wonder if someone this age gives signs of attraction like someone older would?She seems really receptive whenever I come in to her place of work and from the day we both layed eyes on each other she seems all smiles.Our last conversation she told me she was a health nut like me but she eats McDonalds hamburgers and since she graduated school has gained 15lbs. I thought this girl is a comedian and messin' with me. I was buying dark chocolate and she said she didn't like the darker because it's too bitter...I told her alot of people feel the same way she did but it just seemed she was trying to make conversation and I didn't see this with the other customers before me.Anyway any ideas on how to proceed? I have never married and have no kids so it's not like I see this young lady as a daughter.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): I was thinking my cousin was 51 and seeing a 19 yaar old and yes the whispers of her being a little whore a golddigger was whispered and he was robbing the crib etc.They both got along very well were together for about 4 years and I wonder and I see more and more age gap relationships lately in my area and really wondered how are these couples coming together.I never asked my cousin how he met her because he died a little after they had broken up but I always wondered did he make the move on her regardless if she showed any signs of attraction or did his girlfriend make the move on him just like any couple of any age would do if they found someone they liked?I guess the point I am trying to make is not all women show signs of attraction but are and are waiting for the guy to make a more up front move. Anyway I wrote this having a little time but didn't get a chance to see the one I am attracted to she wasn't working yesterday when I picked up my Moms medication. Guess I am writing out loud.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (18 June 2010):
 She'll be more obvious in that case, yes. Small talk about dark chocolate and being a health nut is not flirtatious in the least. If she always keeps the topic of conversation that general, she's not interested, she's just being friendly. This applies to women of any age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I'm 18 and I work at a grocery store and many of the older men I have often make flirtatious comments, even when I ask how their day was! She's probably trying to be funny and I think you're analyzing it way to much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): OK thanks a bunch ya.
One of the reasons for my thread was to get the question answered.... do younger women late teens early 20's show attraction the same as someone older toward someone they find attractive or if the one they are attracted like me is much older? I believe that was answered as she will make it known her intentions is that correct?
I will keep it lighthearted and gentlemanly if that makes a differences and see what she does as I plan on going in there tomorrow not because of her but because I have to pick up medications for my Mom.
If anyone else has more to add I will appreciate it.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (17 June 2010):
As a 23 year old woman, this is my perspective on the situation; while there's a chance she could be interested in you, she's probably just being nice. The age difference isn't the only factor, as I've noticed men of all ages tend to think friendly conversation with a woman they're interested in means she's interested as well. This isn't always the case, and by making a move too soon, things could become very awkward. Wait a while, and see if she becomes more forward. She's obviously not shy, so if she is in fact interested in you, she'll probably make it clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): West1000,
thanks for the reply she works at a CVS pharmacy. When I first layed eyes on her I was going through the drive through window and I made the comment after my eyes fell to my lap that she was new there for I never have seen her there before. I guess my reacion when I first saw her made her giggle because I though wow!
Shes really a sweetheart and she told me she had been working there for awhile...but I had never seen her before.
Anyway the last convo was when she was at the front of the store as a cashier.
Anyone else care to comment or if there are younger ladies here who would like to comment please give your opinion I'd appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): I worked at a drycleaner when I was 19 and I had older men customers and some of them mistook my friendly customer service type communication as more I guess because some of them asked me out and I had no interest that way. I think she might just be making conversation with you. I always did that because it made things less akward. Like when she was talking about dark chocolate being bitter, I don't see how that is flirting at all. Maybe if she said something like "you look a lot younger" etc. but.. I could be wrong though. You could always ask her out and if she declines just never go back to that place again. But from what you've said, it doesn't sound like flirtation on her end.
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