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writes:Hello all cupids and readers=)! Thanks for reading my troubles and it does mean alot your willing to give free time to help so thank you for being amazing. Well lets just say im not exactly the doctor of love and at that would be an understatement. So back on topic ha, so ive known this girl as a friend for about 3 years (since my freshment year of HS im current going to be a junior) and its always been very wierd between us. I had her for an english class and we would always talk and flirt around and I wouldnt take it seriously, as I just thought of her as just a friend at that time. Well all my friends told me and her that we should be together and we were a couple that should've been. At this time though I had a three year crush on a different girl. At this time I could feel that she kind of had a REAL crush on me.Well anyways my beginning of sophmore year we started talking again and a group of us went to a haunted house and well I started to fall for her and I told a couple of friends that I liked her and for some reason she would just turn me down when I asked her on a date. So long story shorter we got into a fight (texting arguement) and stopped speaking to each other. Well a month later I started dating one of her former friends at that time and I was in love with this girl even though she treated me bad. Around our second month of dating this girl that I had got into an arguement again started texting and talking to me again and wanted to move on. So I did and seemed like she wanted me to break up with my girlfriend really bad and she would tell me about how i'd lost alot of weight and got more handsome and that her mother thought that we should go out exc. This confused me!!!! So I broke up with my girlfriend and was too crushed to have feelings for anybody else. Now in my late sophmore year we casually spoke at school and occasionally texted but that was all. I then had another girlfriend which only last 3 weeks as it just wasn't working. Now in the summer we went to a waterpark and spent the day together drink pina coloda's lol and eating salsa and I broke her glasses =/ but that seemed not to matter to her. Now we've started talking and went out with friends twice and she admitted she liked me more than a friend and I admitted too. Well I invited her on a date with me and she agreed. On the day of the date she then stated she thought we should hang at her friend's house instead I replied with "nah, its ok you go ahead though im gonna go with my friend malynda because I promised her a while back i'd go with her and she invited me today, but we can go anytime, don't fret about it=)). And then she stated "No, lol I want to go now" and she scheduled a date another day which i agreed. Now my question is " Is this girl serious, joking, is she not into me, or is this some wierd teen love"? And how can I seal the deal finally to make her mine, cause I really really do like her I just dont want to make a mistake. Ty for your time! All Advice is highly appreciated and I really do mean it thank you!=) Thank you cupid!(cupid's =))
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): I kinda know wat ya mean cause I'm in sort of the same situation. I hav known this girl for nearly five years and I hav liked her for nearly 4 months and i't was really killing me inside. I never had the courage to tell her so I told a few friends since my band wanted to write a song about sumtin so they asked me did I like anyone so I told them. Since I did'nt have the courage to tell her how I feel because I hav known her for so long and I did'nt want to lose the great friendship we hav I told my friend to tell her since he kept at me to tell her and she said to me ''move on, it's for the best'', this really killed me inside. She has a boyfriend but he only likes because she died her hair blonde since he likes blondes. I really really really like her and I wud give anythin to be wit her. we are still good friends but my feelings for her are still really strong. I feel the same when I am not around her but when I am with her I start to like her more and more. I dont know wat to do wit myself anymore. I wish I never met her sumtimes so I wud'nt feel this way. I hav had to hang out wit her and her bf a few times which really gets me depresed I feel like crying. I think I mite love her.
But now to ur situation.
It's all bout planting seeds in her brain which means.
the seed is the idea of u bein her bf, u plant dat by teasin her by tellin her other girls are hotter than her and stuff like dat, then nurture it to a plant by givin it equal amounts of water and light while burying it in the dirt. water/light=gud things like compliments, openin the door 4 her, but give her them when she needs them not when she wants them. Dirt=teasing, gently insulting, it's dirt but witout it the seed wont grow. U might feel bad insultin her but witout the dirt it's pointless. The more u see her the more u will like her. It's like bein hungry and starin at a cake, the more u stare at the cake the hungrier u get, until u eat sumtin, the cake or sum othe food.
Girl=cake, you=u, crush=hunger, Other girls=other food.
U want cake so u eat no other food, u stare(be around) da cake so u get hungry,when ur not around cake ur hunger remains the same but when u see cake u remember who good it tastes(not meant litraly)so u get more hungry.
hope this hlps, I f possible can anybody hlp me cause I'm so depresed and she is two years older than me but age is jus a number, I am despretly lost in my feelings.
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