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writes:At the risk of sounding trite, I'll post this because it's bothered me for the last week. Preface: Things are already a lil rocky with my g/f and I...My g/f was playing a game this last weekend while I was cooking dinner. She asked for my help, and I obliged. She stated that she didn't want one specific thing done that would help her with it. I was already halfway thorugh trying to fix dinner and not burn anything when this happened. Needless to say my "help" (because I did the thing she didn't want done) was an hour session about how I'm ignoring her. I respond "what can I say to make this better?" Her response was "I want you to say that you're a dick, and that you're sorry for not listening to me." This wasn't said in a joking tone. I have never disrespected her by calling her names, and after she does this I'm treated to an hour of how I'm not listening to her, despite the fact that what I did was to try to help her.I think what gets me most is that this was all over a dumb game. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): No your not been over sensitive, she sounds like a control freak...ordering you about..ignoring her hmmmmmmm! who was the one engrossed in a game? Sorry but i think you better get used to this behaviour especially if you are going to be at her beck and call and do and say everything she wants. Get some backbone and tell her not to dictate to you. She is a control freak .....not just an angry girlfriend..what gives her the right to talk to you in that manner?...i don't care if she's got PMT or the like, she is wrong.I can tell you are soft and she is taking advantage of your nature and you know it AND SO DOES SHE! You shouldn't be saying sorry over and over again, did you have to kiss her boots before she forgave you? I bet she is sat on her ass playing games constantly, while you do all the housework. The IGNORING BIT is not about a g/f who is been neglected it is about her dictating that you listen to every demand she gives. Please think hard about what i have said, and quietly observe her tactics and think about the things she does for you?????? get out before it's too late. CONTROL your own life and answer to nobody but yourself, nobody has the right to tell you to verbally degrade yourself..that is even worse than actually calling you a dick. Good Luck and take your inner power back that you have given to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did say I was sorry, multiple times in fact. I'll just chalk this up to being oversensitive and get over it.
Thanks all!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 August 2008):
Well you did the thing that she asked you specifically not to do.
I'd have called you far worse if you did that to my game.
You are being over sensitive and the fact you put great emphasis on the fact you endangered life as we know it by possibly burning dinner says to me you are digging for sympathy whether you mean to or not.
It was a game, yes it was silly, but you could have just said you were sorry and moved on.
Good Luck!! xx
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