A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:One year ago I met an older man at a wedding - he's 47, I'm 31 now. He pursued me and we went for coffee...nothing else happened at the time. Two months ago he contacted me and asked me to come to a party he was having (he's quite wealthy, owns lots of companies, and is very social). I brought a coupld of my friends and we had a great night. I was attracted to him from the moment I met him and that night I drank alot and we ended up in a HEAVY make out session...I figured if I was never going to see him again, I might as well make him remember me! Haha! Anyway, he would get in touch, make plans, then never follow through, so I just let him know I wasn't interested. He then pursued again and I gave him another chance. He let me know that he just wants to have "fun" and is dating people. Fine, that actually works for me...plus what we have is very sexual, there's no real substance. I know it won't last because as a female you need more than sex, but I'm attracted to him and thought this could be fun. Then, we actually went out one day and had a great time...talking!!! It was a surprise to me and to him I think. Later that week I went to his place for dinner, of course after we ate we ended up in bed. I stayed over night. He left early and left me the key to lock up when I was ready. (no we have not actually had sex yet)...and the last 2 times he made comments about committing and that he wasn't seeing anyone else anymore. I went downstairs and saw his camera and remembered that he had taken a pic of me the last time I was there, so I looked to see how cute I was...except I didn't see me but instead saw another girl and him kissing (she looks like she's about 22) and at his place with another girl at 3:30 AM the day we had our "talking" date. I was crushed. Part of me thinks I should just tell him I can't do this, I thougth I could, but I'm better than this. The other part thinks maybe that was/will be the last time with her...which is completely stupid to think. I know seemed ok with how it was going but I started to feel for him and I thought he was feeling for me.Am I total idiot? What do I do? I don't "need" him for anything, so while I don't want to walk away, I have no problem doing it. Plus, the sex is getting slightly dull...again, I'm a woman and I need some sort of mental/emotional stimulation.
View related questions:
crush, kissing, older man, wedding Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): Dear Poster
I agree with "ask older sister"; she said it all;
This guy sounds like a PLAYER; I suggest you be very carefull; don't "gamble" with this guy!
Get out there and find somebody that will respect, love and value you.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
A
male
reader, JORDANP750  +, writes (15 August 2008):
not "all" guys are after sex maybe this guys lonely and need a loving partner...
...............................
|
