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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I had an argument with my long time (7 years) parter a couple of weeks ago and we didn't speak since then. I called him today and he just put the phone down on me. When I called back he texted me to say he has a new GF and they are going on a date tonight and he is going to sleep at her place. A girl he met at work he says (he works as a policeman office based in the crime prevention/local area beat part and I think she was the victim of a burglary or something and he chatted her up and asker her out.He was abusive to his ex wife and has been abusive to me and laughs at me because I am well educated. He has been verbally abusive in the past but has been loving too which is why I feel for him all those years ago. Now he simply sent another text saying 'get lost, all that matters now is my new lady you are a loser' and other nasty texts. I am distraught, really really distraught. Has anyone else experienced this and if so how did you cope - I have never been in this situation before and I am so upset. My daughter tried to call him but no answer and he called my other daughter a 'bitch' in the text to me because she promised to read through and edit a book he wrote but she didn't have time (he had said no rush and he showed it to a publisher who didn't like it and my daughter's friend who is a journalist said the book was awful so my daughter didn't quite know how to approach it and she was going to try and work on it herself but she is very busy with university herself and worke tc ..). He sent another text saying 'you let me down over my book you two bitches'. Now all of a sudden he seems to have a met a girl via work and is staying at her place. I have been with him for years and stood right by him through all his troubles and his difficulties including the last part of his divorce and I looked after myself, supported him, cooked or him, ironed his shirts, always gave him good sex, forgave him loads of stuff and now it is as though I mean nothing. Is this normal male behaviour .. any guys who have views would also be appreciated. Thanks and sorry for the rambly email just trying to get all the info in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Why have you stayed with this guy in the first place? This is NOT normal behavior, it's asshole behavior. Any man who is disrespectful to you, AND your daughters is nobody you should be with. Block his number, stop communicating with him and move on. You don't need that kind of asshole in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): I hope this isnt normal behavious. At lest he should have showed enough respect for you to break up with you in a proper way!
I say burn his book on the fire, take a picture and send it to him....
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