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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well, me and my boyfriend of 17 months have been really loved up. I felt as though nothing would ever come between us, my soul mate, I was just so in love with him and knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.But as of recently, the past month or two have been getting increasingly difficult. He hasn't done anything wrong but I've turned my attention suddenly to other things. It started it out with me being content with everything I had, to wanting to go out and experience the world, to wanting to be with my friends more, to now taking an interest in having fun with other men. I really don't know what to do anymore. He's such a romantic and the sort of guy I've always imagined myself settling down with. But I'm only 19 and although I still love him and it would be so hard to break his heart, I'm really worried that not taking the risk and going out and having fun will be the biggest regret of my life. My boyfriend isn't very outgoing although he has tried to be for me. This means the world but it just hasn't proved enough.Last week on a trip away I met a guy who had all the qualities that my current boyfriend doesn't. And although I know that this new guy wouldnt be the sort of man I'd want to settle down with, I can't stop thinking about him. I just want to have fun. I'm just so scared I'll never meet anyone as lovely as my current boyfriend. Then I get myself down feeling I'm such a horrible person for thinking these things. If I was to split with him, things would be awful, for him more than me. We have holiday booked in July and we live together with other people. I just wonder if it's a phase everybody goes through? Although if it is, it seems to be never ending. Or is this it? Do some people just grow apart? I think if I met my current boyfriend in a few years or so I'd be happy, but right now I'm not. I'm just scared I'm being silly or making the wrong decision?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I know exactly what your going through, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for over 4 years, hes perfect, romantic everything you would want in a husband kind loving etc....i got with him at 18 and he was my first boyfriend...after a year i started getting curious about other men and sex with other men....so i broke up with him...dated few other men etc then we got back together....everything was great for another year then i got curious AGAIN...so we broke up again and i fooled about abit....then we got back together....now its kind of going back to me wanting to see another man ive met but i dont want to give up my current boyfriend as i know he is perfect for me! Being young we always get tempted..part of me says lifes to short go out there experience fun and other men, other half says why ruin what u have for just bit of fun...were young im 22 now...and i think can i picture being with my boyfriend for another 15 years or so!
ITs hard but if your like me and quite heartless your be able to have best of both worlds.....but then ill prob end up alone and sad!
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