A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, myself and this guy are very close. We speak everyday, either face to face or text. We tend to have dinner a lot. I like him and think he feels the same way, but obviously unless he actually does something about it, I continue to guess. We have just got closer and closer and he has done some things that suggest that he is quite interested. However till the end of June, unless something happens by accident, nothing is likely to happen between us as we both have other important things to do and it would be better to start something once summer starts and we have more free time. Also, just to say, I am dating others, and if another guy asks me out I am not going to turn them down just because I am interested in this guy...but I do like him and the guys I have dated this year have been...well...rubbish! Anyway, there is a bit of a background to the question I am going to ask. We never really hug. We have hugged 3 times over the 9 months we have known each other and they have all been at my instigation and they just felt like 'something' was there which made it feel awkward! We both had coffee with a mutual gf (who knows I like him) so we greeted each other with a big hug (myself and the gf) as we always do. I know they have become good friends, so when we finished embracing and she went to sit down. He said, "Well where's my hug then?!" to her in a very put out manner. So she went over and they both hugged, and I saw him glance at me, my reaction was probably a little bit shocked. I asked her, once he had left, if they hugged a lot. She said yes all the time. He has also hugged other friends of ours who are girls in front of me. So I told her that I felt a little bit put out, why does he hug other girls but not me, after all I am the person he is closer to above all others. She told me that I am being silly and actually it is a massive sign that he likes me, is she right? As I didn't quite see it that way. He knows I am a person that hugs a lot, as all of my other friends and I hug and he has seen that. So he must realise that I wouldn't act funny if he hugged me and the fact that I have instigated the only hugs we have had should support that to. So yeah, does him not hugging me go towards another sign of his interest in me, to add to the ever growing list? Thank you!
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2013): I'd says don't get your hopes up. He's only a friend or he would have approached you differently, and he would have made his feelings known by now. Especially, if he realizes you're actively dating other men, and it doesn't seem to bother him.Sometimes women tend to see more into a relationship with a man, than is really there. Sometimes there are certain women in our lives that are our best friends, and they just happen to be women. He sees you as a sister, and his best female companion.He has never made any moves, has never hit on you, and sex never seems to come up. He has never attempted to kiss you, or even playfully make sexual advances? Not even if you get drunk together?It's pure and totally platonic friendship.There is also the possibility that he may be gay. Even if he's a virgin, he would have shown some type of sexual interest in you. Men don't seem to hide our sexual attraction to a woman, or a man, very well.At best, he is only a stead-fast friend and good mate. Crossing the line will only make things awkward. You're seeing the things in him that attract you, and you wish you could find those traits in other men.If you don't want to mess things up; let him make the first move, or just leave it alone. You have a great friendship, don't try to change it; unless he tells you he wants to take it to another level. Then you can confess your true feelings.So many woman get antsy and blur the line. Then get their feelings hurt, get embarrassed, then end the friendship to save face.Men can like women and not want to sleep with you, and we can also appreciate women to be a close and most loyal friend. If we don't touch you that way, it's because we don't want to spoil what we have.Let it be, and enjoy it for what it is.
|
