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writes:About one and a half years ago a male co-worker Ive been having a crush on for a long time, and I got together. After a few weeks he started to call me at 2 in the morning after he got home from the bar, and I told him not to treat me that way. He didn't get it, so I finally snapped at him on the phone and hung up on him.I still tried to maintain friends at work and be professional about it. A few months later he told me he met somebody and the relationship is moving into the right direction. I told him I wish him the best, which he just shug off. I found that weird, but told myself it's best to move on.And I would be over him, if he wouldn't stare at me all the time. So one day I even called him up, and he told me there was nothing there and he moved on. Ok, at least I knew.Then there was the occasional staring, him coming out of the restroom the same time I come out. Then 4 weeks ago during a fire drill he looked at me the entire time (at least every time I peeked), even came closer so I would see him looking. But he won't even say hello any more, and I gave up on being nice, too. I keep ignoring him, but why would a man do that? He moved on, for crying out loud. Is there some mean streak in men, to play games with women. Is he doing it for his ego, to see if I will stare back (of course I look out of curiosity, but try to not most of the time)?And if it's some male game he is playing, what is he getting out of it? Oh, may I add I am white and he is hispanic, so maybe it is a cultural thing?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 You know what I think? I think he wants to have sex with you and it is his male ego playing up. Sorry but it is for sure that he is not interested in a relationship with you but I think all he ever wanted was a booty call from you. I guess he keeps staring at you for this reason. He is seeing someone else and he never did treat you well so i really dont know what you see in him but you need to just ignore him from now on and move on with your life, for your own sake. Show him for once that you are not an easy target and that you are not interested. Goodluck.
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