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writes:I can't stop fanatsising about having sex without a condom! Me and my boyfriend can't do because he has an STD but it's always been the thing that turns me on the most and it's killing me! We've been together for over a year now. I'd never cheat on him though. Is it really what I want or is it the old 'forbidden fruit' thing?
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (13 April 2007):
 There's a powerful yearning to couple just "skin on skin" in a lot of people, and condoms get in the way. As a friend of mine puts it, if I wanted to have sex with latex, I'd buy a blow-up girlfriend.
But you are absolutely right to keep using your condoms while you're with your guy. Whatever else, you do not want his STD. Many of them can be a lot more devastating in females than in males, for one thing.
And cheating on him would be a serious blow to him that your relationship probably would not survive. He's already got to feel pretty bad that he can't give you something that you really want (unprotected sex). If you go somewhere else for it, it will seriously undermine his self esteem and his image of himself as your partner.
So as long as he's your guy, I'm afraid you're stuck with the fantasy. Imagine all you like, but don't do anything about it. You'll only cause more trouble than such an experience can ever be worth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): Can STD be eradicated? If not I suppose it has to be unwise as you never know what future holds in a relationship and although may not be an issue now could be at some time in the future.Also there is the matter of birth control (of course other methods available).
I do know that my gf loves the feel of me coming inside her but it is not an imperative part of sex.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 April 2007):
 I'm sure you do want it but do you want it enough to risk catching your boyfriend's STD? Or breaking up with him to go find someone else who you can have sex with condomless? I guess if the answer to the above two questions is yes then it's quite likely that you want that more than your boyfriend but I think it's just a case of wanting what you can't have to be honest.
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