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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay Im a bit torn right now cause my boyfriend of 7months said some bad things about me over the phone last night. Let me start from the beginning, everything was good Tuesday night til I went downstairs to get the laundry; I came back in the bedroom and everything changed. My boyfriend was not in a playful mood, he wanted 2 leave but I stop him. After a day of asking him what was wrong he finally told me. He went threw my phone and seen my conversations with my friend who is a guy, yes. I wanted to meet up with my friend to catch a movie. My friend knows about my boyfriend and i being serious 2gether, he respects that. My boyfriend is mad cause he says i went behind his back trying to hang with my male friend. Since I've been with my boyfriend I have not hung with any other guy and im tired of him going out with his guy friends while I sit home. But I did not go I was only thinking about the movies. Now he won't let it go, He says im just like all the other girls, but he still have strong feelings 4me. Everyday he makes a smart remark about me going behind his back thinking about cn my friend. I said sorry I do understand what he's saying but why wont he shut up? I feel bad cause he says I treat him like a friend when I dont. Is this a lost cause or should I give him another week? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I reckon you should just sit him down and talk through it. Ask him why he keeps bringing it up and why exactly he didn't trust your answer the first time, why exactly does he still have a problem. I have found in my relationships that sometimes no matter how many times you say something men just don't listen. He seems to have this idea of you 'cheating' on him or going behind his back stuck in his head, if you care about this guy I would just say look I told you it was completely innocent and to be honest I don't appreciate the constant remarks every day, Im sorry you may have thought I was going behind your back but I need you to believe me about this so we can move on. If he cares about you, and trusts you, he will see that this argument is going no where and will let it go.
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