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writes:I'm a 17 year old girl who is a virgin, but last week I was fingered by a guy I actually really like. He was gentle and he understood that I was a Virgin and that I really had no idea about what it was I was supposed to do, but the weird thing is - it hurt. It didn't hurt while he was doing it up until the end, and then for two days I hurt like hell. I could bare with it though, so I guess it wasn't that bad. But, I've noticed that since he's done it - I can't do it to myself. I've always wondered what it would be like to do it myself, seeing as I've never actually really been sexually active but now, when I try to do it - it hurts. Is there something wrong with me? Or is there something I can do to make it easier considering we did try to have intercourse but he couldn't get it in and he knew what he was doing, so - was it me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): hii...well, i can definitely assure you that it's normal for it to hurt while he was fingering you. regardless of how gentle he was being, your lady parts just aren't used to being handled like that. it may be that you still have your hymen, which can definitely cause some pain in situations like that. the more times you get fingered, the more you get used to it, and eventually it stops hurting and just feels really, really good. ")as for the pain afterward, i would say that that's normal as well. i myself have experienced that--it wasn't absolutely excruciating, and i could walk without waddling or anything like that, but i did notice a little bit of tenderness. okayy, i know that this is probably going to sound really, really gross...but whenever you tried to do it yourself, you may not have been wet enough. odds are, you were much more aroused while he was fingering you, and arousal does play a part in the ease of entrance.and the reason that he probably couldn't get it in is that since you're still a virgin, you're probably pretty tight down there...which would definitely make it harder. i myself am still a virgin, soo i really don't have much expertise for that particular part of the question...buuut that's just judging by what i've heard from others. i've also been told that if pain after fingering/intercourse becomes soo horrible that it actually affects your daily life--like, if you can't even walk because it hurts soo bad--it's probably a good idea to see a doctor to make sure that nothing got torn. however, like i said before, slight pain/discomfort is normal and should decrease each time. ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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