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*pooki
writes:I have been seeing this girl since July last year and i really think the world of her, when i met her she was pregnant with her EX's child who she had split from. in January this year she lost the baby and since then the EX has been back on the scene.I understand after going through a lot recently she is feeling really down etc and she says to me that she just feels more comfortable talking about her feelings with him than me as she feels more able to cry in front of him etc. it's got to the point where she seems to be seeing me once or twice a week and him the other evenings and it's making me really jealous. I have asked her on a few occasions if anything is going on and she always swears that there isn't but it just seems so strange to me. I really want to believe her but just don't know if i trust her enough to be able to.It's probably more complicated because i have been supporting her financially through this time as she lost her job through the pregnancy and i just can't help but wonder that if something is going on with her EX that she wouldn't tell me because of the help that i give her until she is able to return to work. This is a really strange situation for me to be in and i sometimes wonder if she's just still seeing me because of the money. I really love her and would do anything for her but i'm really scared of getting hurt and just wonder if it would be best to walk away now or not.
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reader, Spooki +, writes (5 March 2007):
Spooki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks CD, your advice is much appreciated. I have been giving this a lot of thought and i think i need to step back for a while and give her some time, it's going to be difficult as i think so much of her and i never want to see her struggle but i just can't go on in the same way as we have been. Maybe in time she will sort out what's right for her and if that's not me then fair enough i can move on knowing that i at least tried
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 March 2007):
 I think it would make sense that she finds it easier to talk to her ex than you because he lost a baby too so they're going through it together. Plus if your relationship is relatively new she probably just feels more comfortable being vulnerable with him. I would be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt if you're at all able to but if you're not tell her you're going to give her some time to get her head together. That means stop supporting her and not speaking for a while. She will get by without your financial support somehow and if she really loves you she'll sort her head out quickly.
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