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female
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30-35,
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writes:So i went out with this guy once when i was 14 and i have to admit he never left my mind sure, i dated other guys but never forgot about him. He was always there in the back of my mind. Now 17 me and him, having not seen eachother in a long time, recconcted. He told me he likes me alot but he openly flirts with other girls infront of me. He told my friends he likes me alot but doesnt want to jump into a relationship. Is it just me or is that he unvirsal hidden message of im just using her? From my experience most men only say that when they want sex and no strings attached. Do you think im right? Is there any way i can probably get him to want a relationship by doing certain things if im not right?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2009):
 In my experience, when a guy says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Believe him. Don't try to catch him, you'll only break your own heart. The guy is being honest, which is good, so why not believe him?
He's still young, if he's your age, and he may not be ready to settle down yet and is just having fun for now. Nothing wrong with that. It's a pity that he's not on the same timeline as you seem to be, but that's what happens in life.
Enjoy a bit of mild flirting with him, but definitely do NOT consider him boyfriend material. And don't take it personally.
Good luck!
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reader, askc  +, writes (7 December 2009):
I dont think there is anything you can to MAKE him want a relationship and if they are his feelings on it I wouldnt waste my time trying to interest him in one. If he liked you as much as he's saying he would want you to be with him, and him alone! I think the fact that he has been telling your friends he really likes you is because he knows they will say it back to you. He knows all the tricks. By the sounds of it he just wants to have his cake and eat it too, and if I were you, I wouldnt bother with him! Just my opinion on it all, hope that helps!
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