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writes: Hi everyone, I really hope someone out there can help me with this. It's quite long, so please bear with me. x.xI’m a bit of a commitment phobic, as I’ve been hurt before and petrified of being hurt again, even though deep down I want to settle. I recently met Mr.B nearly 2 months ago. I was the most honest I've ever been with anyone. I told him my fears of being hurt and used, somehow he listened and we started "seeing" each other. We played we both played mind games, playing it really cool with each other. After a while we started having sex and now emotions have got involved. It's the best sex either of us have had. He jokingly says he could marry me just because of the sex! But in all seriousness, I think I'm falling for him. I’m worried he doesn’t feel the same. All the signs are there, like the romantic side and cuddling, saying how beautiful I am and texting each other about 10 times a day, but there’s also this cold side to him, which is making me very confused. He doesn’t seem to make much of an effort to see me. He just goes with the flow. We’ve both agreed that what we have is more than sex, even though that’s all we seem to do. When I’m with him it's great, but when I’m not he can be quite cold on the phone. I feel like I’m making more of an effort to see him and make time for him. He says there hasn’t been anyone else since me and says he couldn’t think of anything better to do than go away somewhere next year, but his hot and cold behaviour is driving me mad! I don’t know if I should carry on seeing him, which I obviously want to do and tell him how I feel or just walk away to stop me from getting hurt. My friends say leave him or see how it goes. We haven’t had a great run so far as both of us have been playing the "keep it cool game" so neither of us knew where we both stood. I’m so confused what should I do?Angel.x
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (20 November 2005):
 Well you said it has only been 2 months, so it is a bit soon to say that he is definitely "the one". I believe that any time sex is involved emotions are soon to follow for at least one of the people involved. If you want a commitment you have the right to have it, but maybe not with him. You say you were able to talk with him about things, have you tried have a serious talk about where your relationship is headed? The best way to find out if he wants more with you is to ask him. Once you know what he wants you can take a step back and re-evaluate the situation, how long will you be happy with great sex but nothing else?
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