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female
age
41-50,
*pchick
writes:Hi, I hope someone can help me. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, well until last weekend. ?He's in the royal navy and has been serving in the gulf for the last 3 months - due back April next year. Before he went we had a few ups and downs due to his insecurities about going and everything since has been fine. Hes called every week and emailed loads. Anyway, last week he called out of the blue to end it. it seems hes had his new deployment schedule through and for the next 2.5 yrs hes going to be away a lot. He's made up his mind he says that it needs to be over as he cant handle being with someone who is just down the phone and not there. hes been in 15 yrs and is 34 yrs old so he should know the score by now. He's gone really cold and sent me a letter saying that he loved me and always will but this is 'for the best'. I'm a bit of a mess as there was no prior warnings. I dont think anyone else is involved as his ship just has men on it apart from 3 female officers and hes not really that sort. I've emailed him to tell him i love him and the distance deosnt bother me as we both have money and time to fly out if and where possible and hes back for 7 months next year. I guess what I want to know is in the knowledge that he's running away of commiting to something, is there anything I can do? Also, could this actually be for the best? I hope someone can help. my head is spinning.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 I think it is for your best to let him go. You need to respect his decisions. There is no point to love a heart that is dead.
Find a living one that can love you back.
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