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writes:There is a girl who was friend with me since 2 years. She was so close to me and trust me that she sends her pics to me to ask that which one she should make her DP. We talk everyday on texts for 2-3 hours. within 5 months our chats counts reached to 13704 (Excluding few conversations on FB). She cares for me a lot and so I. She has a Childhood Friend to whom she don't talk everyday but talks within 3-4 days. I am a student but the girl and her friend both are earning. Whenever I said to her I feel alone, she replies to me I m there na. One day I got jealous of her friend. I thought I might be late if I wait to propose her. Whenever we are texting each other shedon't text to anyone just me and her but one day she was talking to me suddenly she started to answer me late I got fear so 3 days later I generally in a funny tone asked that I have noticed a thing that sometimes when you talk to me your answers gets delayed whats the matter.So she said " I don't have power to explain it, I think we are talking too much nowadays, let's give it a break, What say?I got afraid that now she will not talk to me and I don't know for how many days and I can't live without her.I sent her a long text message expressing all my feelings that I love you a lot and said I don't expect a yes from you or anything other than friendship. A day before this proposal she said to me I don't want our friendship to end ever. So I too wrote, I too don't want our friendship to end ever. Now It's up to you that what you decide and I will respect your decision. But she didn't answered my text and blocked me from everywhere. I tried to meet her personally but she ignored. Now it's been 48 days and not a single reply came from her side neither I got unblocked. I know I should't have said those things that your answers got late but I am still hoping that she will be back soon. As we were too close and shared a lot of laughs together. I just want to ask is there any chance that she will be back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2018): You are obsessed with this young woman. I guess you needed a place to vent and ease your anxiety. She's not in-love with you; but your persistence is quite unhealthy. I guess she has to deal with you her way.
Best of luck, Hermant!
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reader, N91  +, writes (4 September 2018):
 If she wanted to speak to you she would do.
Stop obsessing over this, it’s been close to 3 months. Get on with your life.
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (3 September 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday She unblocked me from Whatsapp......But I can't see her DP.......I think she has deleted my no. or could be possible she don't have DP on whatsapp this time but the point is......She thought about me.......even after 73 days......!!!.........That could be a signal........That still there is a chance......although Slim but yes there is.......!!!!
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (15 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes Sir I m respecting that, that's why I didn't contact her since 13th july just waiting because I think some space could work........I didn't want any GF or wanted to fall in love before I started to talk to her but I fell for her that was not my wish but I fell in love with her so now I m focusing on my studies and I m at good position means in top 5 students within 100. But in free time her memories troubles me. She works in a bank. Sometimes when cashier don't comes she had to sit in cashier's place. She always messaged me a day before this that I m going to be cashier tomorrow and if any fault happens I have to pay.......So I always talks to her and boosts her confidence so that she feels good and she actually liked this because within 4-5 months she became cashier approx 9-10 times and she every time messaged me that I m going to be cashier tomorrow and I did the same. Once she posted a thanks message on the whatsapp story That "Thanks Fudku (a cute Name given by her to me) for being with me all these times."
So I hope that one day soon she will need me and will approach me & I will be available for her. One day she will stop and will remember our sweet times and how much I care for her and how much she needs me and I too need her.
Because whenever she fell into any trouble I came up with a Idea to help her and was always available for her. I think being always available to her was my biggest fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): My apologies! I misunderstood these comments:
"I sent her a long text message expressing all my feelings that I love you a lot and said I don't expect a yes from you or anything other than friendship."
"A day before this [proposal] she said to me I don't want our friendship to end ever."
So I guess your offer was not accepted. She only wants to be friends, nothing more. If she blocked you from everything and ignored you; she wants you to discontinue contact. You should respect that.
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (14 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand one more line
Whatever decision u will take, I will respect it
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (14 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry sir I m not arguing but I want to clear that I didn't gave her a marriage proposal
I just said that I love u a lot
I don't expect a yes or anything from you except friendship
I just expressed my feelings because it was caged inside me since long and I was burdened with the feelings
I was always thinking that u have feelings for me or not or you should not have any other person in your life and these thoughts was giving me tension that's why I expressed my feelings to u
All the shaayris that u appreciated were solely dedicated to u
u asked me 2-3 times that for whom u write these sweet poems and I didn't had guts to say this to u earlier
and all those songs too were dedicated to u that I had recorded and sent to u and u liked
I don't want our friendship to get affected by this but I know it will
But still I will say I too don't want to end our friendship ever
I don't know how u will react to it or will even react to it or not
So I just want to say that Keep Smiling (a big one because a small one don't suit on your face)
Will miss our sweet teasing of each other
So finally be happy
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (14 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I got that......But I don't know why but I m still hopeful for her reply and her coming back as a friend or as a ...... I know chances are slim but I can't help myself.........Thanks for the replies :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): I wish you well, and you are blessed to have survived your ordeal.
I offer you no argument my young friend. That is not the point of my advice. The young lady has given you distance and her silence to allow you time to put your feelings in proper perspective.
Your gratitude has grown into an infatuation; thus you offered her a marriage proposal. She has not responded for 48 days. Don't confuse her kindness for romantic-love; because she is sympathetic and offered her comfort during your plight. Not offering you an explanation for the long silence was not fair to you. That's all I'm saying.
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (14 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBuddy I have a very dark story about my health......and she wanted to know each and every bit of my 5 years story......if I tell the story to my friends they say please complete it in short but she wanted to listen every bit of my story.........she was eager to know me.......It was very tragic that I don't want to make her feel sad listening my story so I denied and she didn't talked me for 6 days untill I told her full story in almost 15-20 days.......during my exam she told me you give a lot of your time to me so now we will not talk until your exams are over. Your studies are important. That means almost for 1 month but just after 5 days she messaged me that I have bought ticket of cricket match and I was not able to resist without telling you about this.......and then we talked for almost 1 and a half hour
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): I've been here on DC for a long-time. If there is one thing I've learned, if nothing else; it's usually a great waste of my time advising people in-love with their friends. They change their stories with each follow-up post; and they have a rebuttal to every aunt and uncle who takes time to help or advise them. You're no exception.
The young lady is toying with your emotions; and you're so in-love, you're nearly foolish about it.
Best of luck!
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (13 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I understand all the matter you want to explain but she is not engaged that's for sure and a few days back her closest friend to whom she shares everything teased me from her name in Comments.......That Hi Hemant where's Richa (Name Changed) nowadays? So I don't want to say anything in comments so I just wrote "Why? Is she angry from u too?" and she replied in a funny tone "I think so"? then I didn't replied to her but messaged her on Facebbok but she didn't saw it.One more thing on my birthday she gave me a Samrt Watch......It was much costlier then a normal friend gives to some other friend and the astonishing thing was I was denying to recieve the gift. Actually She asked me what gift do u want? I said I don't want any gifts, u wished me beautifully that's enough, So she said, No I will give just say what u want, I said I don't want, So she said Ok I will decide myself just send the address and I denied to send the address but she forced me a lot so I gave her address. When she met my mother, she hugged my mother tightly, that time I thought wow that worked. I am not able to forget her. I don't want that she say yes I want the friendship back. I always kept love and friendship apart. I always teased her like a friend.A girl who said just before the proposal that "I don't want our friendship to end ever" ended everything suddenly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2018): I am so sorry, my young friend; but I think that it is over.
It is possible that the friend that you were so jealous of, was more than just a friend. He may have been her betrothed. She may have an arranged-marriage, and it was time for her to focus more on her engagement and forthcoming wedding. You are her dearest and most precious friend. She knew you were greatly fond of her; but you didn't take a hint that you were only friends. You pressed her for more. You dominated all of her time.
It's important that you remain focused on your studies. That you move on with your life. You invested too much of yourself into the friendship; trying with all your might to turn it into a romantic-relationship. You were being much too forceful; and making it hard for her to avoid hurting your feelings. So your proposal was just too much. It had to be ended to set you free.
You will never see the connection as just a friendship; and you will always yearn for something more. It is best that you be set-free to finish school. Now you must focus on your future, and your career. In time, you will find true-love; but she was not the one. It has been 48 days! Please stop waiting!
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reader, Hemant Agrawal +, writes (12 August 2018):
Hemant Agrawal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut after this much close Friendship a answer could have been given by her.......She should have talked to me or said something but she ended the friendship like there was never ever anything between us........My friends who read our texts was sure that there was surely something between us.....ok leave it but when I tried to talk to her face to face she ignored me and when I changed my way she turned and was searching me and I was going from different path so I was not seen but because she wasn't able to find me she was searching for me everywhere. I m very shy guy, I don't usually talk to girls but I have one more female friend who was a friend of my crush but as soon as she came to know that I talk to her friend she got jealous and she said to me don't talk to her she is not the right person.
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reader, N91 +, writes (12 August 2018):
I think it’s pretty clear that she doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore.
People drift apart, these things happen in life. You will survive. I’m assuming you were hoping she would be your GF from the ‘proposal’ texts? If so, it looks like she sees you only as a friend and she needed space from you because you wanted different things.
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