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writes:My wife and I know a couple, A and B, who live 5 minutes away and we used to consider them good friends. I think we have only gotten together (just the 4 of us) 2 times in the last 3 years. They have said they are too busy to do much with us. We still invite them to big parties at our house, but they don't invite us to anything.Recently I saw A at a friend's house, C. I realized that A had met C at our last big party. Anyway, I was a little hurt that in front of me A said to C, "Hey, we should go to that new Chinese place! How about tomorrow night?!"Am I a jerk for considering not inviting A and B to our parties anymore?Do you think there's any hope of 'rekindling' our friendship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help!
I have the feeling this other couple might be the sort of people who are constantly looking for novelty, including in friends.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 June 2015):
 I agree with Honeypie. Either something turned them off you, they just don't feel any friendship chemistry or you have served your purpose and they've moved on. Whatever the reason, you should too. To keep pursuing them makes you look desperate.Stop inviting them. Don't complain about them to others or seem angry. Be polite and friendly, as you would to an acquaintance. You don't want to appear jealous or desperate. They're allowed to choose their friends...and so are you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2015):
 I would stop inviting them. Because they are not friends. They are just suing you and your wife to gain a larger social circle.
They claim to be "too busy" to see you, but have time to go eat at a new place with someone they know even less...
Yes, stop inviting them.
IF you guys have ALWAYS made an effort and they none, there IS no friendship.
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