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writes:I've been in a LDR few years now. I posted my question a couple of days ago, I got 1 answer which was very good but I would appreciate more answers. I am sad, I feel left behind and I can't think straight,My boyfriend and I live in two different countries. The first 2 years we spent lots of time together. I need about 2 hours flight to go and visit him. I am the one doing the travel, I don't mind it at all, he says he can't come see me, he needs a permision from the us army. The first 2 years we spent almost every other weekend together, in the 2 years after, we've spent only 1 SINGLE WEEKEND together, I still was fine with that keeping in mind how busy his schedule is. This year we haven't seen each other AT ALL. He used to call me more and he used to email me a lot more. He says he miss me and that he looks forward to see me SOON. But I don't know when soon is? Everybody around me finds me wrong to waste long years of my life waiting for him, keeping in touch with him and worrying about him if he sometimes doesn't email me 2 or 3 weeks. I LOVE HIM. I TRULY DO. The last couple of months have been very tough for me. I am suffering for not seeing him and for not being with him.I started doubting that he might not be as honest with me as I believe. He knows how much I love him and how devoted I am to him. He never tells me for how long we will stay apart? In the last few months he started emailing less but he asks me to email more, which I normally do. 4 days ago he replied to one of my emails after 12 days and he asked me again to email more !! I couldn't take this pressure anymore and I told him I am not ready to be an on-line pen pal. I haven't heard from him since then !! Is he upset?Can someone possibly be deployed to war 3 full years? and why some men make huge effort at the beginning of a relationship and then not anymore. Why he refuses to give an approximate time for when we'll see each other again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Thanks Baby duck for your reply. Saying good bye to my boyfriend is going to be the most difficult thing ever I have to go through. I really LOVE him. I'm afraid he is the love of my life. And somewhere deep inside I know that he loves me too. But I guess I don't have any other choice. You are right I am suffering and I don't want neither to judge him nor to judge myself. Maybe our relationship isn't meant to be. No ultimatum, no I wouldn't give him any ultimatum.I don't like them either.
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