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writes: Did he cheat on me with his ex and actually admit it too?Boyfriend and me have been arguing a lot lately. We stopped talking, during our week break, we were still together but just not talking. He told me in his anger for me, he went to talk to his ex. The whole reason we were fighting was because of her. He said he went to make sure his feelings were right. That he wanted to see if there was any spark. All they did was talk online, is that still cheating somehow? Im not sure.He told me about it himself, and said he wanted to prove to himself that he didnt feel anything for her and that their conversations were dull and not there.We were fighting because she was trying to get back together with him, and he didnt tell her about me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): It could be considered cheating....what you bf is citing to you is this: if he discovers that he still has feelings for this ex, he is going to leave you for her. It's that simple. This doesn't need to talk to his ex in order to see if he still has feelings for her HE DOES AND HE KNOWS IT. That's why he didn't tell her about YOU. I have been through something like this before and I can tell you right now....he is thinking about going back to her....it isn't all the ex trying to get back with him, although that is what he would like for you to believe. Moreover, your bf has every right to his feelings b/c in some cases some ppl can't help who they love thus they can't make themselves or force themselves to stop loving that which they love. You can be the best woman he has ever had, but if there is not emotional connection, all the sex, all the do gooding will not help you win his heart over in the end. You never want to be the woman a man goes running too whenever the woman he truly desires is no where to be found.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): Yes it is cheating.
Trying to foster another relationship, whether it's sexual, emotional or mental is cheating.
Frankly there shouldn't have been any need for him to 'prove' anything to himself if he was 100% committed to you.
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