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writes:At 15 years of age, I am going through life experiencing new things everyday. Recently, I know im late, but i had my first official "kiss". The problem was that it was with my best friends brothers friend. She was mad at the situation, but eventually forgave me stating she overreacted, but I completely understand the awkward situation she was placed in. More recently, me and her where hanging out with one of our guy friends, and I ended up making out with him. Nothing more than that. I would think she would be fine with it, but instead she got extremley mad and told me what a slut I have become. She has done far worse than me, and I am not exactly sure why she is reacting the way she is, because I am against the word "slut", as I just hate that word so much. Do I have something to apologize for, or should I just give her some time to cool off? Also, in your brutally honest opinions, am i rushing it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): In your teenage years guys and girls love to use the word 'slut' or 'whore' to label others unfairly. It is hard getting through this phase of your life. I'm a 23 year old exotic dancer, and people like to label me too. You need to have a solid beleif in yourself as a person, and someone can only make you feel bad if you let them. A good friend would have a giggle with you over who you kissed and not make you feel bad or guilty. However, if you are having second thoughts about whether you are rushing into things then maybe you should hold off for a boy you really like. Ultimately, as long as you are happy within yourself and it feels right, dont let anybody tell you that your morals are poor. They only do it because they are jealous or insecure themselves! All the best :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): I wouldn't say you were rushing it exactly, but now that you have got the first kiss out of the way (and seen the trouble it can cause) maybe it is best that you be more selective and save it for boys you really like and are looking to be in a relationship with, or dating.
A kiss can be just for fun, and people don't normally worry about saving a kiss for a relationship in the same way that they believe sex should only be for relationships, but that still doesn't mean you have to kiss everyone who offers. I know sometimes you just get caught up in the moment, but if it is effecting your relationships with your friends, then maybe it's just not worth it.
Your friend is probably reacting out of a combination of jealousy, and concern (I remember when the first one of my friends had her first kiss, we were all mad at her for some reason, but by the end of the year, we had all done it too) so give her a bit of time, and ask her for her honest opinion on what you are doing, and what she would do in the same situation(people always love being asked for their opinions, its very flattering, and it will make her think you are listening to her and value her advice) Good luck with everything.
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