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writes:I have been broke up for a few months now from my partner of 6 years. She gave her reasons for leaving me which I understand as it was pretty much my fault. Part of me now thinks she had someone in mind before leaving me.We have not really spoken since, now and then but that is it. When we do speak she seems totally different and to an extent I can understand this. However, as soon as we broke up she was out buying herself underwear and new clothes. Then there is the phone conversations that we have had where she acts really secretive about who she has been with and where she has been. The reasons have changed for her leaving me slightly as well, like she is trying to justify something.We still have a house to sell so part of me thinks she is keeping this low to avoid any messy arguments. But then again I could be reading this all wrong and just paranoid about something that is not there. Any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it will do me no good to think like that, its just frustrating to think the worst i suppose. We were so alike, (one reason we got together) and now she seems like a totally different person. i dont blame her for that; its just not nice to think that someone you looked up to could do something like that. Its also difficult because i wanted to stay friends, but now dont feel I know her. I am looking to the future now and trying to put all the messy stuff behind me. Thanks for everyone for their time and advice, as hard as it was to take!! All the best.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 What good will it do you if you do find out she was cheating on you? It's over and in the past now, you need to concentrate on you. You'll sell the house and move on to greener pastures. Good luck, I'm sure happiness is right around the corner for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll fair points and your right it is no longer none of my business. But I would like to know if whether she had been cheating on me, while we were together. Too late to do much about it now I know, but I think that is my business if things were going on behind my back.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 April 2007):
Well I guess it's all a moot point anyway. You've broken up...you need to stop worrying about what she's up to and start getting on with your own life. It's difficult I know but really that's what you need to do at this point. Good luck.
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reader, rachael123 +, writes (9 April 2007):
 you didnt really explain your reason why if she did have anyone else it has anything to do with you. she is allowed to go and meet other people and what she does with her life is really none of your business im afraid. but apart from that you are probably being paranoid. a womem is allowed to go out and buy herself some new underwear anad clothes without having a secret agenda. my advice to you is forget her and move on with your life. find yourself someone else and take your mind of this women who is doing nothing wrong wethere she is seeing someone or not. shes single!!!!!1
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