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36-40,
*onystarkben
writes:Thanks for reading...I'm in a bit of a tizzy and not sure what to think so need an outside perspective...I met a girl in a bar a couple of weeks ago. She seemed lovely and we took photos and she put her number in my phone. We spoke for a few days and i asked her to dinner.We went out on a nice date and i got her flowers. She was so pleased as she said she had never been on a date or gotten flowers before. I'm quite old fashioned and do little things like hold doors open and she tells me i'm a real gentleman and she has always wanted that but the only guys she met seemed to be jerks. She said she wanted a relationship and not flings, she just never found the right guy.We had another couple of dates this week and all seemed good.Today we went to the zoo and she asked if it was ok ( in the week) if her little sister came along as she was babysitting her. I said of course and i went over and met her parents and we went to the zoo.Most of the day she seemed quiet and distant and she was telling me a little about how she has her barriers up as she doesn't want to get hurt and she got a text from her parents that said i was really nice and they don't know what she's worried about.I asked her what they mean but she said it didn't matter, she maybe would tell me in time. I was joking around asking if she had met anyone else or if she had a secret child etc and she was laughing saying no, nothing like that, it's to do with me,We had a nice rest of the day and i won her a cuddly elephant as it was her favorite and she did kiss me and all seemed ok but then she just said she was quite tired and i said i would take her home.On the way home she was on the phone to her sister and she was arranging to go over when she got back. I admit i was quite disappointed as it seems the day was cut short and it now seems like she doesn't want to spend time with me, i thought we would spend the day together, not just 4 hours.I took her home and she gave me a really long hug and kissed me goodbye and said thank you and mentioned maybe doing something tomorrow and to let me know i got home safe.I'm home now and text her saying thanks for a lovely day - no reply, but i saw she's been on whats app so i'm sure she read it.Just not sure what to think of it all... do you think maybe she's just not interested suddenly or something else is up? Just sucks as i was beginning to like her...thanks for reading
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 July 2013):
 Hey man
If she distances herself you distance too. Its logical. Dont pursue. Youll make her angry as she is busy thinking. Backoff and dont pepper her with messages instead send one a day assuming she continues to ignore. Say good morning hv a good day nothing pushy. When women pull away suddenly its usually fear n shes clealry told u wats going on. Respect her boundary its manly. Women love a guy who can take no but remain strong. Its confidence. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): The girl clearly likes you.
She agreed to went out with you.
Isn't that clear that she likes you?
Because no woman will ever go out with someone that they don't like.
I speak for myself. i can't spend even my 5 minutes to a guy that I don't like. I usually date people I only like.
I never had that desperate moments that I have to go out with someone I am not interested at all.
I'm not sure with other girls. but to me, if I don't like a person, I will make it clear. So, no confusion for him and for me. I'm just not sure if she likes you more than a friend or just plain friends.
but definitely she feel comfortable to be with you, she is interested to get to know you because she spent time with you.
Why she didn't reply to your text, so many reasons.
But one thing for sure. I think this girl you like is classy. There are 3 types of women.
1. Easy to get
2. Hard to get
3. Playing hard to get
If she falls to type No.2 and Type 3
then you have the need to work hard for it.
If you really like her,
Continue giving her flowers, because it makes a woman think
about the person who sent it to them.
Text and call her everyday, no misses.
Ask her Out.
Never make her wonder, let her know your intention.
Don't hurry, you just met her a couple of weeks ago.
Easy Come, easy Go. So just slow down.
Be gentleman at all times. It will make her melt and fall for you.
Lastly, have fun together.
Make her laugh.
In time, she'll be yours.
tell me when you finally get your prize.
I wish I was a boy, I would have done better.
Anyway, Good Luck!
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