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writes:I like this guy friend so much unfortunately he always denying and playing my feeling. Now he totally cut me off and date one of my friend(use to be really close friend) and she was from Germany.He did this obviously he want to prove his loyal and honest to this girl in long distance relationship. They only begin have feeling on summer, May 2010. But they didn't meet physically for two years. Finally,on last year Christmas, she even went to his country flying from Europe and visited him for two weeks (will they have sex or what, I dun want to think, i pretty it did)after two year didn't physically approach. The guy now is back to US and continue his last semester of studying. He already preparing this July will flying to Germany and studying (which I really no idea what he is going to studying there, because he have no basic Germany language background, and he is already 29yr old). They still dating through internet, u know like skyping, emailing and some shit. Recently, the girl already done her teacher studying in University and ready moving to some small town to training two months, and again resend by government to other town to start her teaching career ( i heard it from my other germany pal who is our friend as well).[I have a friend's friends who marrying a Germany girl and moved to Germany, became depress and commit suicide, he was in half coma, but now he is better. This guy he first time came to Germany, the only person closed with him was his wife. He couldn't find any job in that country, wife is pregnant, language boundaries.]Even though, I know i hate this girl, but in reality I still care alot about the guy friend i love so much. I even could sense he is not happy.He is really family attach person. Now he going to live in another continent which is more far away from US, a non-speaking english country. He need to learn new language! my questions is, how stable the long relationship will be? i mean, now, the girl only start her career path. It is possible that once she start teaching, and living different town from other town where he will be studying in Germany,the relationship will changing? their lifestyle and culture may different (ok, just look at the foods they eat, is already culture different, traveling maybe survive local foods a while, imagine if living there like 3year!?)The guy haven't start working or his really proper career outside soceity, and he only worked in campus enviroment. The guy never come to Germany, and the only friends who he will staying with were other Germany friends that had living in South America like two years, and adopt s.A culture (they knew to speak his language, so at least they understand his culture).He and his gf possible only having sex attach with each other within the two week visit, but could that guarantee their relationship will really stable?I dun hope he is really sad because he rili moody person, anti-social when in bad mood, easy get lonely. Like the stories about the guy try to suicide, he even though have a love wife, but his wife couldnt' stop him from depression.
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