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writes: i've been with my fiance almost 5 years. No relationship is perfect but for 3 years we had as close to perfect as it can get. Yes we had our little arguments and issues over things, but nothing that we didnt come to a compromise on, and neither of us had cheated. A year and a half ago his mom passed away. She was everything to him. He went into this angry stage and it was like i didnt even know who he was. He cheated on me with a co-worker for about 4 mths. He said that it was only sex and the time with her and lying to me took his mind off of "things at the house" (we take care of his dependant dad because he has diabetes.) Anyway, they say that death can change a person in different ways. He has less patience and more of a temper now and doesnt like to show his feelings as much. How do i let go of the hurt to start trusting him again because it's so hard sometimes. Part of me thinks he wouldnt do it again but sometimes i wonder if he would do it again if he knew i wouldnt find out.Basically, "once a cheater always a cheater"? How can you tell which guys are and which ones aren't?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): Sometimes when we lose a parent we question ourselves and our own lives. I lost a parent 3 years ago, it was very sudden but I went off the rails a bit. I drank, I felt angry, I slept around and basically put my bf through hell.I think it makes you realise that we are not here for long and parents are supposed to live forever in our perfect world. Take a step backwards and a deep breath, focus on yourself for the moment, when this trauma is over for him I'm sure he'll be relieved that you were there for him when he needed you most. best of luck. x
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