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writes:Hello I would like some outside views of my relationship. First of all, I am 27 years old, I am professional and have a great career that it is everything for me. I was engaged for 5 years with a guy that was a little bit controlling and he used to axfixiate me, we would spend every moment (literally) together, we would even take the same classes in college, so obviously we reached a point where I wanted out, so I broke up with him. We broke up one year and a half ago, almost 2, april of 2007. So 8 months ago I started dating my current boyfriend which is nothing like my ex, he does everything to make me happy and i also do it for him, so this guy is more normal, but he is very very bussy, college, work, he always try to make time for me, we normally see each other 3 times a week, and honestly for me that is fine because I understand he is bussy and it also gives me time to dedicate to my things, I know he doesn't spend that much time with his friends as he used to because of being with me, we normally see each other wendesday friday and sunday, the days that we don't see each other sometimes we texted or call each other, sometimes don't, the sex between us is great, we have share that we both have strong feelings for each other, he even started making coments that implying future plans like marriage, i am his first real relationship. So my problem is, as my only relationship before this one was so axfixiating, what for me was normal, is that my boyfriend would want to be with me all the time, even now when I feel better in this relationship, I cannot avoid to think if my relationship is good or not, I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me also, he hasn't say it, but I know if for his actions, but sometimes I can't avoid to compare this relationship with my last one, even when the last one was misserable. He is always complimenting how preetty and sexy I look, he say that he has never has such a good sex as he is having with me, and hasn't feel so good with any girl as he does with me. I would like some views about this, am I having a good relationship? Is my boyfriend playing me? By the way, sorry for my english, it is not my first language.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (17 October 2008):
your new relation ship sounds similar to mine with my girl freind. We only get to see each other three times a week. Just because he is not clingy and telling you he misses you eveyday, doesn't mean that he isn't in love with you. You two are just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): hmmm from what your giving us, it doesnt sound like he's playing you. tell him how you feel, it'll make it better, I guarantee it.
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reader, youloveit  +, writes (16 October 2008):
well, it sounds like a perfect relationship. Something I am striving for as well, something everyone should. what you explained is a "adult" relationship, and what you described as your previous is obvioulsy a very childish relationship, which I can also relate too. So, from what you explained you shouldnt have a thing to worry about.. and plus if you thnk negative about your relationship.. you may just get it.. so think positive live in the moment and enjoy the time you share with one another.. and ps. he sounds amazing! so just enjoy.. and noone can help but compare to their previous experiences because thats how we learn grow and move on! lol so all the best!!
lol YOU GO GIRL!! haha xo
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