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writes:ok im 17 and my girlfriend is 15 the legal age for sex in WA is 16.. just to explain and make it easier for people to understand even though my girlfriend and i havnt even had sex and dont intend to until she is 16, also we have been together for almost 5 months nowOk my mum has said to me and my girlfriend that she is not happy with us lying in/on the bed together so anyway today my girlfriend and i wanted to watch a DVD and we tried both rooms and in one, the dvd player didnt work and the other the picture was so distorted you couldnt even see the dvd menu. so both my girlfriend and i decided to go into my bedroom and watch the dvd on the computer. we were lying on the bed without the covers over us and we had all our cloths on and we were just hugging and watching this movie, not kissing or anything so anyway mum comes home and didnt say anything as to embarrass my girlfriend and when we get home from dropping her off mum says that she is not welcome at our house anymore until she gets home from work and i asked why and my mum said i knew why so i said i didnt eventually she told me that we were lying on the bed togetherso i asked what the problem with it was and she said the fact is it is on a bed in a bedroom but she is happy with us lying on the couch in the backroom (which is like indoor bar area, dining area, kitchen and entertainment room all in one) the thing is with that if she wanted to see us from the door that separates the backroom for the corridore she cant see all of what is happening on the couch. where as if it was in my bedroom it is closer than the backroom, the door is always open so ANYONE can walk in at anytime and you can see what is happening on the bed from the door heck you can even see whats going on if you take a few steps in from the front door or if you look out of the lounge room door and you even have to walk past my bedroom if you want to go to the toilet. so i ask my mum what is the difference between the surface of a couch and a bed, whatever can be done on a bed can be done on a lounge. and she says that is a bedroom this is a lounge room and i said i didnt ask about the room i asked about the surface and she just says that i have disrespected her and basically said "f*** you i'll do what i want"then my mum proceded to say that i am wrong and she is right and that when im an adult she is 99.9% sure i will be saying the same thing and then i got really mad and instead of hitting my mum i started punching and kneeing into the wall.and now my mum proposes that we move my computer into the other room across from my room.. which if anything its more secluded than the room im in now it just doesnt have a bed in it. AND it is still a "bedroom" so to speak we just call it a games room.so i say to my mum "we can still lye down on beanbags together" so we can still basically do the same stuff on a beanbag that we can do on a bedpersonally i think my mum is being stupid, paranoid and a worry wart and i asked one of my friends and he said it sounds like she is being paranoid so i want to hear what everyone else thinks especially parentsalso this argument has been had several times
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): this is the guys girlfriend,
and his mum has put our relationship to an end,
im sorry geoff,
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Ah sorry my bad with the Covers part. I still agree with your mother. She is looking out for YOU and your GF big time.
Respect her rules and life will be much easier.
You got a GOOD and smart mom.
What she is worried about are things like, statutory rape - teen pregnancy - walking in on her "baby" doing the horizontal.... and all the other things that can happen when teens start having sex. She WANTS YOU to be a responsible young man, and that IS A GOOD THING!
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reader, dragionz +, writes (13 August 2009):
dragionz is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yesi do intend on showing all this to my mum.. i basically just want to see her point of view.. we talked a few minutes ago and said shes not worried about the sex or anything its just the fact of seeing both of us on a bed together makes her feel uncomfortable..
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reader, dragionz +, writes (13 August 2009):
dragionz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso a reply to Honeypie, we were not under the covers but thankyuo for the feedback
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reader, dragionz +, writes (13 August 2009):
dragionz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso after discussing with mum that she isnt comfortable with my girlfriend and i sleeping in the same bedroom.. one night she comes home and finds me asleep in the same room as her although she was in the bed and i was on the furthest side of the room from the bed on the floor asleep
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 August 2009):
Your mom is THE adult here and YOU will have to listen to you. SHE is after all looking out for you and for your girlfriend.
You say that you two aren't going to have sex til she is 16, but your mom was young once.. I bet you she knows how easy it is to get tempted to do "stuff". And I bet you she knows how (pardon the expression) hormonal teenagers are.
LISTEN to your mom.
If you two are going to watch a movie you FIRST of all didn't have to be under the covers.. (dressed or not..)
Your mom is in charge - even if you don't like it you will have to follow her rules. Some parents would REFUSE for their kids to date someone younger then the kids themselves out of fear of what could happen.
Your mom is right. Although yes it is possible to have sex just about anywhere, but I think she is trying to minimize the "making it easy" for you two to mess around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Look,
Your mum does not want you screwing up your life by having sex with an underage girl. Thats illegal and could land you in a lot of jail. It does not matter what you say or do the fact is that until your girfriend is 16 she is not above the age of consent and you should not put yourself in any sort of a compromising position that might leave you open to accusations false or otherwise. Your mum loves and cares for you, shes probably happy enough to have your gf over at your house but not in your room, thats the line , and you should respect that.
Have you said any of this to your mum? If your going to have sex then you need to be a man and have that chat.
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