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writes:Hi viewers,i need your advice regarding my GF, we been 2 years long distance relationship and 4 me its going strong relationship and she accepting my marriage proposal for here and we getting marriage soon after our contract.my problem is she have good memories in his ex before and take away here virginity. She learn all the things from his ex like sex or let me say everything from the beginning, Thier relationship has ended break up because she found out she is not in love with him anymore even though her x still inlove with here. Until few months later after they broke up we meet and I started court here and she accepted my love. we are now running 2 years relationship and 1 year long distance relationship and basically i said good relationship,Everytime we took she always said good things about here x. the way how they spent there liesure time, going to the beach from sunrise to sunset, how his ex love here and she know that if she ask his ex to accept here again here x would accept here and it hurts me lot knowing i never do that for here, and i have my own ways to show my feelings towards here,My question is why she still attached here previous BF in our discussion and compare me, everytime we had understanding she would call here x to tell what is happening.?Is she still inlove with here x? She said that if i would not fight for here she would be back and married her x,His x is still in love with here and i love here so much and im willing to do to fight with her. Please give me any advice especially to the people who experience like this.Thanks
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reader, Rhandy +, writes (4 August 2008):
Rhandy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi everybody thanks for the responce and it helps me lot, and regarding to Infidel asking how old is she, My GF is 26 and his X BF i think 25 or 24 and im 25. Thanks
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reader, Infidel7  +, writes (2 August 2008):
First of all how old is your girlfriend and was her X her first love. Because that plays a big part. She's probably remembering old times because she still calls he...that's makes it hard to forget. I don't beleive she cheating on you yet but if you don't fix this issue three is a possibly she will or she'll leave you to go back to him. Fighting for or over her is not nessasary.You shouldn't have to, she's your girlfriend. She's acting a bit imature about the whole situation. The only thing this guy has over you is that he knows more about her. You may think you know everything but you don't. It's your job to figure out the things about her that even she doesn't know. Doesn't sound like your in control of your relationship. You have to let her know your the man. Also do some research on new and interesting sexual positions. Teach her things that he didn't. Here is a secret for you every girl has at least a little freak in them and every girl has g spot that they don't know about. Find it and work you magic. Teasing is really good to. Get her to the point where she has to have you no matter where you are. If you get her that open during sex you may even see another side to her. She'll tell you things you don't know. One last thing: The fact that she calls him and talks to him about you also give him the authority over you relationship and really it's disrepectful.This must stop or you will lose her. I'm sure he knows this but she's naive to see that. When you figure out how to do this make sure she knows you love her but if you don't genuinely see and feel the same from her in return....don't make it seem like you want or need her more then she wants you.She seems like the type of person that would see you as weak or clingy if you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): There are some things you don't forget. Its not necessarily about the other person just how happy you were at the time. For example, a first kiss. Its not remembering how much you liked that person, or even about that person. Just how happy you were.
Maybe she wishes that you two did that kind of stuff. I mean walking along the beach.
I think she would be back with her ex because he is fighting for her. She almost feels sorry for him. They broke up for a reason, and she needs to make that point known to him because this is her issue thats affecting you. As I said, its not your problem.
She needs to tell you thats it over, or him its over, and she needs to stick with her decision. Shes messing both you around.
What she said isn't something a normal woman would say. At the same time she accepted your marriage proposal. I suggest you tell her what you've told us, but don't go on about it. It only creates unhappiness and a bad image on you.
You need to say if your getting married she needs to tell her Ex its over.
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