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writes:I'm not sure how to start, so I will just dive in. I am 36 and married to a woman I love. We have good sex and no problems except that my testosterone may be a little low so we don't have it as much as we used to, but i'm working on that. The problem i'm having is that I have a thing for watching she-male porn. No, I'm not gay. In other words i'm not attracted to men at all, period. But there is something about seeing a woman, who has a you know what, having sex. Now, if I think about actually having sex with someone like that I think, "no chance". So I'm pretty sure it's more of a fantasy thing then an actual thing I would like to do. I think mainly I'm just worried that i'm getting bored with my sex life. So are there any suggestions? Do I need to change anything or is this just a harmless fantasy? Should I tell my wife even though I know she thinks she-male porn is messed up? Oh, and to any transexuals I appologize if the term she-male is offensive, I'm not trying to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have to admit that I think it has some to do with my past porn watching being a little overbored. I think I have gotten a little bored with regular sex. However I have no desire to be penetrated by anything or anyone. I know this because I have experimented on myself and it wasn't enjoyable at all. I am pretty sure it is just a fantasy now. Thanks.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Straight men who like transsexual porn are common, nothing wrong with it. But it also might be a sign that your watching too much pornography, and need greater and greater stimulation to get aroused.
I'd suggest, give pornography a break for a little while, and see if your sexual issues improve. If not, go back to it, porn isn't going anywhere, it'll be there when you need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): I guess maybe you might be curious to know what it feels like to experience anal sex/penetrative sex. It could be a whole dominance thing. Maybe you want the submissive role.It could be you viewed porn long enough that straight sex just doesnt cut it so you now are into the other porn due to you need to recapture the sexual buzz, excitement 'straight' porn used to have for you. Its just a condition some people experience with porn viewing and it is a REAL 'phenom' when it comes to porn usage. Just people confuse it all and I can understand why some may even think they are not straight. Have you had fantasies of your Wife using a strap on, on you?I ask this as there are many men I have encountered in the dating world that ask this of me; if I would be willing to do this for them should we be sexual partners.I don't necessarily find it disturbing but if the man is Bi-sexual and hasnt' figured it out- I'd say no. I'd want a monogamous, faithful relationship and Bi Sexuals I know, say they find it hard to be in a long term relationship and remain monogamous if they can't have access to both sexual avenues of partners.You may be bored with your sex life because you haven't been fully honest about it in what you want, desire and what fantasies your Wife would be willing to fulfill for you/with you.Time to have a chat with Wife I am thinking.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (21 November 2011):
 A number of men who otherwise identify as straight do have a predeliction for transexual pornography. So no, I don't think it's a sign of being homosexual by itself. From what you describe, it seems more like a fantasy than anything else.
Whether you want to tell your wife depends on you, really. If you don't normally talk about each other's porn-viewing preferences, why would you want to share this? If you do, then you might as well mention this as well.
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