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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy in my class who asked could we be friends. I knew that he did not want to be just my friend because he kept suggesting for us to get together for dinner or "chill at his place." We had exchanged numbers and I told him that I would try to make time to go to dinner with him. However, I had just broken up with my boyfriend a month earlier because he had moved to another state. My “guy-friend” also seem very jealous of me also. My lab partner was a guy, and I would always catch my guy-friend staring back at me whenever I was talking to my lab partner.My boyfriend decided to move back closer to me for the sake to save our relationship, so I got back with my BF. I broke it off with my "guy friend" by telling him that me and my boyfriend had got back together and that it was inappropriate for us to be texting each other. I felt so bad about texting him that message.He was very angry at me about this.I could tell by his attitude the next time I saw him in class. He was all in the other girls face the next class day. He was whispering in her ear and they were smiling all in each other faces. I felt like he was trying to make me jealous because he was being very “extra.” One day while I was sitting in the library, I heard a voice say “Hey.” I looked up and it was him grabbing a seat at my small table. The library was not crowded, so he could have easily sat back himself or something.He smiled and seemed very friendly. I smiled back, but I could not believe he was being nice towards me again. I still believed he was mad about how I did him. We chatted about our upcoming projects and laughed about a variety of things. At one point, he offered to share his snacks with me that he had brought with him. I kept unintentionally flirting with him at some points.I tried to stop myself though.The next week in class though he gave me the silent treatment again.Could we actually have a real friendship after all this drama?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): Don't attempt rekindling friendship; because he'll switch gears every-time you don't seem to see it his way.
He knows you have a boyfriend, and he's only schmoozing up to you now; because he knows his friendship no longer matters anymore. If he's not nice to you, your boyfriend just might rattle his cage, or reset his teeth.
Be pleasant and distant toward him until he backs off.
Treat him like any other classmate. Don't accept anymore invitations. Remind him you have a boyfriend; and don't respond to any of his messages. Delete or block them.
If he sits next to you, get up and move away.
He's trying to start rumors you're an item.
Don't feel bad about anything. You haven't done anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer! I was hoping that me and him could still be friends somehow,but I think the damage is done at this point. I think it is best if I distance myself away from him. I hate that I have to see him in class everyday now though :/
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 January 2014):
 Nope, I would be cordial, but not try and redo the friendship. He sounds like a manipulative sort of fella who likes to play games. BUT in his defense.. he might think you jerked him around pretty good too.
If you think a guy wants MORE then friendship don't be vague or "pretend" that you want to be friends because you will come out looking like the jerk.
He wasn't a friend and he WON'T BE a friend. Not if there are emotions or one wants more then friendship. With him though, all I see is drama waiting to happen.
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