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writes:I have been in a fwb relationship for almost two months now.he generally emails me throughout the day to see how I am doing or just random talk through emails. I really connect with this man and am catching feelings. If he wasn't feeling the same would he even bother to email or would he just only get a Hold of me when he wanted some? We talk on days we don't even see each other. Anyone have any other signs a guy is falling? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 April 2014):
 So what did you learn from the advice the aunts here gave you?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 April 2014):
 It can happen. It did for me... and to this day I'm not sure if I fell for him first or his falling for me made me fall for him.
We started NSA/FWB in late December 2010 and by April 2011 we had a good idea this was progressing. We both fought it and part of what allowed it to happen was my being 2 hours away physically from him for over a year....
Cerberus is right you are confusing Fuck buddies with FWB.. FWB meaning FRIENDS with benefits... the FRIENDS part comes first.
Tisha is also correct... a man who is falling for you wants you in his life 24/7 and will move heaven and earth to make it happen.
I caution you that you need to address this with him and in this case you must listen to his words... his actions are not yet saying he wants more than friends... if he words say "no I don't feel that way" BELIEVE HIM and do not try to make it more than it is...
IN fact, IF he says it's nothing more than friends and you are falling, I STRONGLY urge you to end the sex part ASAP or else you will end up hurt more than you an imagine.
I will tell you that the first time I realized I was in love with my FWB I said to him "damn you to hell" and he KNEW it meant "damn you I fell in love with you despite my NOT wanting to"
LUCKILY, he was going in the same direction (I don't want to give you hope as it's VERY rare for FWB to work out to be a love match and our circumstances were very VERY unusual)
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (9 April 2014):
 I understand talking is scary. It means in most situations that you are going to learn the truth. Be prepared to hear the truth and have a sense beforehand about how you are going to handle it. If he says he just wants to be fwb and keep things that way, you will want to decide whether that is up to your standard for yourself, your relationship and your life. I hope for the best possible outcome for you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 April 2014):
The signs a guy is falling for you is that he makes an effort to take you out, to ask you what you like so he can surprise you with his thoughtfulness, he introduces you to his friends, he moves heaven and earth to be with you even if there is no sex involved, he makes you a part of his everyday life beyond some texts or emails which are low effort, oh and he says "I think I'm falling for you."
If you are catching feelings then you need to talk to him before you get too involved.
And please don't make the mistake of hoping if you stick around long enough he'll eventually fall in love. He's already made his determination as to how you fit into his life, you just need to confirm it with him. If he's a good guy, he'll be honest.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2014): None of these are signs he is falling for you. It's called "friends" with benefits. He's allowed to be your friend and be in contact in other ways.
You're thinking of fuck buddies. They only meet up for sex and that's it.
There's only one sign a guy is falling, and that's him telling you he is when you talk to him about it. That's it.
FWB's are everything a girlfriend is except for the emotions, commitment and exclusivity.
If you really want to know how he feels ask him. If you want to fall in love with a guy who only wants to be casual all the while seeing signs you want to see but that mean nothing, then that's fine. Don't blame him if you read him wrong.
So talk to him and find out. It's possible he does like you more than that, but you're not going to see that from signals.
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