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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, im hvaing very mixed feelings about an an old friend that just came back into my life. this isnt about a relationship just a friendship between two girls. So it all started years ago in my freshman year of highschool, me and this new girl hit it off quick, we were always together, never fought, always having fun. It just so happened both our parents were single and they got together a few months into the friendship, we were estatic a first about it, then they moved in with my mom and i and things went down hill. soon the my best friend moved away to be with her mom in california. i was kind of crushed especially since we basically stopped talking except the occasional IM. She visited me our sophmore summer and then i visted her our junior summer and senior summer we had no contact. she has visited several times and has made no attempt to contact me simply because her older brother and i got into an argument over like $5. Our parents are still together so i hear about her alot and cant believe she stopped talking to me because of that. Now she has decied to move back for good to transfer colleges. and out of no where she emails me and says she misses me and all kinds of stuff. honestly to me it seemed fake. very unlike her. i believe her dad made her email me because us not talking stresses our parents relationship. when i told her we could go have lunch and talk it out and to let me know when she just kinda ended the conversation with no clear answer. i really wouldnt mind to be her friend and i feel like im in middle school again due to all this drama but im very confused on the whole situation. is she being genuine in saying she misses me?? or is it just a ploy from her dad?? my mom doesnt even like her because she is to stuck up so if we were to become friends, i would feel like i was betraying my mom, whom i still live with while in school. so what should i do? just forget her emails or give her another chance? sorry this was so long. i just needed to vent a little. thanks in advance.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Just tell your mom that if you and her are on good terms it would be better for her relationship. And it isn't nice to ice out an old friend reaching out to you, especially when your mom is involved with her parent. Just give it a chance. Just ask her straight up what made her decide to want to be friends with you again and that if she was just saying that because of her dad she doesn't need to and you can both simply be on pleasant terms if that is what she would prefer. But also that if she genuinely wants to be friends that would be satisfying with you as well.
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