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writes: I have split from my bf nearly a month and a half ago and things are starting to get a tad better.A few Saturdays ago I went out to party and met this really nice guy. I had a great time and he came back to my mate's. We shared a sleeping bag and we kissed but that was it. We have been texting each other loads recently.I then met up with him today nite at another party and we ended up getting together again, and last nite he stayed round my house. But again we didnt sleep together.I really like this guy and I'm pretty sure he feels the same, however the only thing coming in between this is my ex bf who accidentally ended up kissing on Friday at another party. He made it perfectly clear what his feelings were that nite, but he rang me last nite asking if there will ever be a chance for us again and he wants to meet up tomorrow to talk about us.I feel so confused and I can't help but think if there wasn't this new guy on the scene he wouldn't be interested. There are obviously still feelings there so I really don't know what to do.Should I meet up with him tomorrow or not?
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reader, joanna44 +, writes (22 May 2006):
 just leave him to get on with it,hes only interested cos uve got sum1 else then NO dont meet up with him again hes a waste of space,he dosnt want u but he dosnt want anyone else to have you thats all it is trust him, get on with your new life with your new boyfriend and be happy hun!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (21 May 2006):
 Well, how do YOU feel? You seem to treat this situation as if you exist to please one guy or the other and that you have to be with one of them, but it's a lot more than that. You have to be happy with what you do.
Ask yourself why you broke up with your ex. When you've thought about the reasons for the split, ask yourself what's changed since then. Are those problems solved? Are you sure he's changed, and not just being "nice" to win you back? If you get back together with him, will you just be in the same situation that led you to break up in the first place?
Now to the New Guy. If your ex wasn't in the picture at all, how would you feel about the new guy? Would you be interested in him for himself? Does he have any characteristics and worry or scare you? Are you comfortable around each other? Is he fun to be with?
This case sounds like your Ex realised what he'd lost as soon as he saw someone else interested in you. Now, unless your Ex has changed from the person he was when you broke up, I can't see any reason to meet him or discuss anything.
Last point: don't feel that it's a choice between two guys. You don't HAVE TO be with anyone, and not having a boyfriend right now is a perfectly valid choice too. Simple, too!
Good luck.
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reader, tequilarodeo +, writes (21 May 2006):
 If there is even a doubt in your mind that he is only doing this because he saw you with another guy, then i would tell him you are not able to go with him tomorrow. You have moved on, once you two broke up that gave you the right to see other people...
If you do decide to go, then the guy you are with now might think you were just using him to make your ex jealous... why wreak the good thing you got going with your new guy?
But again, like i say in all my posts... in the end it is up to you. Our answers may help, but your the one who makes the decision in the end!
Good Luck... :)
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