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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and we've just started talking again. He says he doesn't want a relationship with me anymore, but later told me he still wanted to fool around.But I still have feelings for him and still want to be in a relationship. I told him I wasn't comfortable with it, and he dropped it after a while. Now I feel like he's just being nice to me to try and get in my pants... any advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 November 2011):
 I agree drop contact.
especially because you have feelings for him.
no good can come from him getting his jollies at your emotional expense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Okay, if a guy came up to you and said, Hi, I don't respect you and see you as only a means to masterbate with by using your body- you would say...?
We older women can see through the BS and see he's telling you he wants you for sex only which means he doesn't have to be nice to you, respect you, and there is no friendship or love involved.
Your basically supposed to be likened to some gal that gets so drunk, her judgement is so impaired, he can easily get into her pants and she isn't supposed to complain about it because, the arguement is nice girls don't put themselves into such a situation.
I smell a sexual predator, selfish mentality here.
So what is attractive about that guy?
Tell him to piss off. But only do so if you can back it by definitly cutting him out of your life. He is not a friend and doesn't deserve to be in your circle of love and friendship.
Peace Out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): forget about him. he justs wants to get into your pants. dont even try to convince yourself that with time he will get interested again. you will just put yourslef in alot of hurt.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 November 2011):
 It seems like he wants a FWB thing. Not really you, but someone familiar to have sex with.
I would drop the contact too. Easier to move past him.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 Drop the contact again. He already stated he wants to keep fooling around with you, and he will work to win you over. If he can not respect your no, and have a pure friendship, then theres nothing you can do about it.
Also, as long as you still have romantic feelings for him you can not be friends. It wont work, you'll want more, and he'll take advantage of that. You need to cut the contact for even longer, and only get in touch when you are truly over him, if you still want friendship then.
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