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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I call my ex sometimes,and When he picks up the phone we talk. When we first broke up he would never answer my phone calls AT ALL!!! The last time I spoke to him, I was tearful and upset, because he said that he was with someone else and that he was getting married. That was about 2 or 3 months ago. I once again, spoke to him just recently and he said, that he missed me and, was planning on making some attempts to come see me because he now lives in another state. He did not mention anything about being with someone or geting married. Now I try, to call him still and sometimes I get his answering machine and I leave messages and he does not respond back. He was my first boyfriend, and I really care about him. Do you just think that he is confused or something? What should I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): I don't mean this to sound unkind but you are relying on an unreliable man for emotional support! First, if he wants to be with you, he will. If you had something special, he's going to find it difficult to let go and may appear to blow hot and cold, but by not answering your calls he was probably doing you a favour. With distance and time apart, wounds start to heal whether you want them to or not. You need to find your independence and start living for yourself. If he wants to be a part of your life let him come running. If you're chasing him and he's still running you're probably best to call it a day. Ring your girlfriends for emotional support and if you don't have any, make some! Get out there and start making yourself happy, don't rely on a man to do it! Good luck
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reader, kenny  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 I know its hard, what with him being your first love and everything, but i feel its time for you to move on from this guy. He is blowing hot and cold with you, one minute he with someone else and getting married, then you are not sure whether he is or not, then he does not respond to you. Put him aside and get on with you life, go out with your mates, let your hair down and have fun. Sooner or later you will me a guy that shows you the love & respect that you so rightly deserve, and probably when you least expect it.
Good luck x
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