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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,I wrote you the other day about rekindling a relationship with my ex but I truly change my mind there is no kind of change in this man he is truly history but he constantly calls me telling me he loves me but his still has his bad habits which are drinking and getting high I wont allow he back in my life like this I just can't .How can i help him before he comes back or just leave him be?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 January 2015):
 Jut leave him be.
The man is old enough to know his behaviour is a problem and where to get help. If nothing has changed by now, it's unlikely it ever will.
Sticking around is just torture for you.
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female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 January 2015):
 you can't help him or fix him.
just go no contact and walk away it's best and easiest in the long run for both of you.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (2 January 2015):
Leave him be, he has to want to change and he has to change himself. That means he doesnt take help from you, he goes about finding the resources necessary to do what he needs to do. He is an adult, he can figure this out himself if he want to do it. Id you step in he will just go along with it (even when he doesnt want to change) as he knows it will make you more likely to take him back.
All in all, people like this are too much drama unless and until they change, and continue with that change.
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