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writes:Hello, I don’t know how to bring this up, but I am curious about my boyfriend’s behavior. If anyone would like to explain it. I’ve been with my boyfriend for seven years. We are both in our 20s. Anyway, my boyfriend is a sensitive guy normally but becomes very dominant in bed. He’s never verbally or physically abusive to me on any occasion. However, whenever he’s been through failure or sad days in general, I’m there to cheer him up. In return, we end up making love. My question is it normal for a man, or even a woman to want sex after being upset (or even angry)? I am always consenting unless I am not in the mood or going through personal issues myself. I am just curious is all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2019): It seems to me you're his source of comfort and a great stress-reliever. Passion is often increased when a man has someone he knows is there for him after a bad experience or during hard-times. You feed his spirit and give him relief.
I find that after a stressful day and dealing with the outside world; makes me happy to come home to my mate. Making-love to someone sweet and tender seems to be better than anything 80 proof, that comes in pill-form, injected through a needle, smoked, or snorted up your snoot! It's a scientific fact that it lowers the blood-pressure, releases stress, and fills you full of dopamine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2019): I know this will sound like a lot but well into our 30's wife and I did it 3x day on average. Even more on weekend. Maybe he just wants sex. Seeing each other gets us in the mood. And it's a very healthy thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2019): Sex is one of the greatest stress releivers there is! In todays world, we can get pretty wound up, male or female, from work, kids, commuting, fianancial woes, too little time, and relationship problems. Just planning a long awaited vacation can create a lot of nervous energy, seeing to every detail and second guessing yourself as to whether you may have forgotten anything. So to answer your question, yes it is very normal for your man to want to unwind with sex which releases that built up stress energy in a sudden burst of sexual exercise which brings on satisfaction, relaxation, and then sleep to rejuvinate our tired body! By the way, this is not unique to men, because women are burdened with many many stressors! After all, mothers are charged with childcare, clean laundry, family meal planning and cooking, house keeping, and being a loving wife! Moms are special! Like my grandma used to say, a man works from sun til sun, but a womans work is never done! Oh, and I forgot to say, many moms work outside jobs
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2019): This is the OP. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. I wasn’t sure how to phrase it. I have spoken to him but I still wonder sometimes. You gave a good example, by the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2019): Sometimes being dominant is just releasing the stress and pressure of a bad day. You get lost for a little while. And act out. Nothing wrong with it. As long as he also makes love to you gently and slowly too. Different moods for different days. Enjoy them all. It's nice when a man takes charge. Why not be the one to take charge once in awhile? He will love it!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (6 July 2019):
 Normal is a weird word that doesn't apply to your question. A better answer to your question is it is certainly common to want sex after being upset or angry. Scared is also common.
It is common for people to be more or less dominant sexually that they are in other areas of life. For example many sexually submissive men are required to make high pressure decisions at work, but find giving up control in bed to be very liberating.
In the case of your relationship it might be as simple as his prior partners demanded aggressiveness in bed so he got into the habit.
Communication is a great way to cure curiosity.
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