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Is my boyfriend too 'big' to have sex with?

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Question - (18 February 2010) 21 Answers - (Newest, 9 March 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, *eedtoknow35 writes:

i am only 5'1 amd weigh about 137lbs but my new boy friend says his penis is 7inches he is about 6'1 and weighs about 235 lbs is that two big for me we havent had sex yet but i do have four kids thati did have vaginally

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010):

I have experience with this. I am only 5 ft with a small frame. My boyfriend is a good 9 inches. He never talks about his size but was I surprised when I first discovered how large he was ;). He is always gentle with me and we don't have a problem. I enjoy every minute!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010):

The vagina is a very elastic organ. If you have had children, your vagina must be large enough to accommodate your boyfriend's penis, so I should not worry. Being nervous could make you tense and may make penetration more difficult.

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A male reader, rudehusband United Kingdom +, writes (20 February 2010):

rudehusband agony aunti wouldnt worry.. i have studied medical matters most of my life.

it is a fact that the vagina can stretch to accomodate a penis of any size.

think of it like this. .you managed to give birth and your vagina stretched to accomodate the baby, this is definitely larger than his penis. . so you'll be fine.

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (19 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony aunti kind of teased him up a bit ii know i shouldnt have and he threatned to whip his 7 inch penis on me i was skeptic at first then he just whipped it ou and oh yea it was erect

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony aunthe was already erect i kept teasing him up. something that woman should never do to a man but it wasnt intentional and he told me to stop or he was going to whip his 7 inch thing on me i told him yea right and out it came

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

There are guys with big penises who are very careful not to hurt a woman and those who take joy in giving her all that she can take. My wife had a boyfriend who was about 8 inches long and he was very gentle and was very careful not to hurt her. I know a woman who had a husband who took joy in giving her more than she could take. My wife's boyfriend never showed off, but the other guy liked to show off his asset. When a guy just whips it out to show it to you, that is a warning sign to me that he might be too macho.

By the way, when he just whipped it out to show it too you, was it flaccid or was he already erect?

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A female reader, Angzw Zimbabwe +, writes (18 February 2010):

I doubt you will have a problem with his size. There are many ways to skin a cat so you can experiment with the positions that make you comfortable. Just because he is huge it doesn't mean he is going to hammer away at you. Just tell him you want to take it slow the first time it happens.. Enjoy.

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony auntlol thats the problem he keeps saying stuff like "im goin to tear that ass up" and stuff like that i told him that was not funny its been 2 months since we been together and he wonder why i keep putting it off but i know he hasnt been going else where so i aint worried about that

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

i have a lot of friends that are mismatched in size. no problem. dont worry about it. it shouldnt be a problem at all if he if gentle. if he is a brute then thats another issue altogether. mal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

No my husband is 6'1 and I am 5ft he was weight was 265 at one point and me 140. We were just fine. Its hot actually! Big MAN! To make u feel amazing!

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony auntthank you that comment you made about you and your husbamd size makes me feel a whole lot better because he wants me to spend the night over his house friday night and i know something is going to happen there is to much attraction between the two of us for it not to

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony auntthe size of his penis is really not the problem its the height and weight that he has over me and the force behind it. this guy is really strong i am a small person compared to him and i really dont like getting on top all the time

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

No my husband is 6'1 and I am 5ft he was weight was 265 at one point and me 140. We were just fine. Its hot actually! Big MAN! To make u feel amazing!

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony auntwell the problem is not how big his penis is its how big he is my head comes barely to his chest are thats a lot of weight for someone mt size the bigger the person the more force behind it i dont like to be on top all the time

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A female reader, needtoknow35 United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

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needtoknow35 agony auntyea he is about 7inches i have seen it but just not at that stage to have any type of sex i was skeptic so he whipped it out but 7inches is probably right he is a police detective so he is in very good shape

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

7 inches isn't that big, above average yes, but big? Nope. Getting into the 8-9 inch territory, is starting to get big. But you've had 4 kids, so what is the problem?

BTW, if he says he is 7 inches, then he is likely 5.5 inches. Men can exagerate and honestly whoever is hung doesn't need to measure, they know it's impressive without the measurement number. It's the border line or smaller guys that get worried about it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

Wow. This doesn't seem like a real question. But hey, I will give you the benefit of the doubt.

When a woman is properly aroused your cervix will elevate within your vagina to accommodate almost any size penis. The average human penis size is around 6 inches, which, if one were to apply a bell shaped curve (remember college?) to the statistics, means you will routinely find penises measuring 5" and 7". Also, fairly commonplace would be penises measuring 4" and 8". Less common would be penises measuring 3" or 9", and so on. I am sure you get the picture.

Therefore, a seven inch penis is right around the norm and your vagina will accommodate it just fine. This is especially true if you have had 4 kids. If I were you, I would hope he is big enough for both of your pleasure.

Regarding his physical stature... once again... the female human body is very resilient and can handle sexual intercourse with a very large man. If you have a known physical, muscular, cardiovascular, or orthopedic condition, then consult with your physician beforehand to find out the best means for engaging in sexual intercourse.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

I would check to verify that it really is that big, because he could be stretching it, so to speak, and pretending it's an inch or two bigger just to impress you. He very well might, though, which won't be too much to handle. Lube and spit help, but don't let him get too excited and force it in too fast or hard, because that can do damage and be very painful, not to mention retarded on his part. Slow and easy wins the race. Remember, just like anal, to let go and go with it, because the more you relax your muscles in your body and get into it, the more it will help to be a better experience over all. Just don't forget no and stop, and stay in control if you feel too pressured in any way. Things should be fine, though..don't worry.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

it shouldnt be a problem. have lube on hand and plenty of foreplay but you should be fine. mal

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (18 February 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI can't see why you can't have sex.. You can always be on top ;)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

It is unlikely that he is too big for you. As long as you are properly aroused with enough foreplay then you should have no trouble with him. The vagina can expand to 8 inches in depth when the woman is aroused. Just take it slow at first until you feel comfortable with it. You should be fine and will likely be more than happy with 7 inches once you have had sex with him.

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