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writes:I need some advice from people who have experience in this area and know what they're talking about.I am almost 23 and my boyfriend is 28. We have been together for quite a while now and i guess i am hoping for an engagement ring in the next couple of months.My problem is i am a little paranoid about my boyfriend possibly putting off proposing because he thinks i'm too young, might change my mind, might not be sure etc. Most of his friends are aged 28-32 and are getting engaged/married/having kids. Out of all of his mate's girlfriends i am the youngest by about 3 years. He makes comments every now and then about me being younger than him.. kinda like 'oh you wouldn't remember this tv show because it was before your time' sorta thing. But then we've touched on the subject of the age gap and little and he's always said i am much more mature than he thought a 22 yr old would be.. and that he doesn't notice the age gap - which i agree with since i've actually lived out of home longer than he has, am financially independent etc. So i am wondering if others think my paranoia is justified or whether i'm worrying about nothing??!Do men in their late 20's consider proposing to women in their early 20's? or am i an for a 4+ yr relationship before we get to that stage simply because of my age?Thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Well of course if your a little younger than him, you will have different interest and experiences. No problem with that, as no two people are the same. If you love one another, it should give you more interests to share. Your financialy independent and live away from home, that makes you an adult in my book. Maybe the age gap is a problem for him, maybe you act a little immature, I don't know. Talk to him and ask him. If he's says things are fine, then their fine.
I think your main problem however is that maybe you think he dosen't want to get married. Again, can't help you there. It's time to sit him down and do that special talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I would have to say your paranoid, and maybe desperate. If in fact you feel desperate, for whatever reason, this can usually be noticed, and this may send fears as to what the person might be up to, creating more paranoia now with the other.
Have you both disgussed marriage recently or in the past? What was said or agreed to then. It is quite possible from what was said before is what he is living up to.
Age is not a factor, it is assumed your both mature enough to know what your getting into.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Why can't you ask your boyfriend these questions? He knows the answers and we'd only be guessing.
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