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writes:Ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and every seems good but his behavior is starting to change. Its bad enough that his parents don't like me lord know why because I am a respectful, ambitious young woman(own job,car and full time college student), but when I had asked him why they don't speak to me,invite me to family functions or even ask about me he tells me that its not a big deal. When we first started dating he was very helpful to me but now when I ask him to do things for me its either he's busy or already out and when I say i will do it myself he gets mad smh! Also when we first started dating he use to shower me with compliments and now its like he don't even notice sometimes. Another thing is he has been getting called into work alot lately and I don't know if he is actually working or this is a excuse to spend less time with me. He is also religious and has decided to go on a "sex" fast for a week with a church member and I respect that but he didn't really discuss it with me or ask how i would feel about it, he just decided to do it out of impulse. I doubt that he is cheating but I'm starting to feel like the feelings may not be the same anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): It may not be such a big deal to him, but he's not the one being judged for absolutely no justified reason by your parents. He needs to listen to how its affecting you and making you feel.
There's clearly something going on you're not stupid, but maybe he thinks you are, or he himself isn't too bothered about the relationship lasting either. :/
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (19 August 2012):
 They maybe don't want him happy or out of their control.They see most in likely he would be happy and might be trying to prevent it and hook him up with someone else?Or he could be in his own world ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont know but yea I have but maybe I'm have to again. Thanks for your feedback!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Seems to me that he is pulling away. Maybe because his church/family do not approve of you?
And maybe he's just started to take you for granted.
Have you talked to him about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea I definetaly think thats a reason but I just dont understand why they dont like me! I have been nothing but nice and respectful towards both of them and I am involved in church,dont drink or smoke,dont have any kids and I go to school full time smh!, no we have the same religion, were both christians but his church is a lil bit close knit than mine. Yea but when I do try to talk to him about it he makes it like its not that big of a deal. but Thanks 4 tha feedback :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): I may not be right, but since you said his parents don't like you, and he doesn't include you in family things, I'm going to take a guess and say his family are putting pressure on him to leave you and be with someone they perhaps would approve of.
I'm also guessing you don't share the same religion since he's gone on a sex fast for a week and you haven't, so this maybe a contributing factor if it is his parents that are influencing him against you.
My initial advice would be to try and discuss this with him, and find out exactly what is going on. If that doesn't work, then maybe you need to act on your own initiative and call it a day with him because the relationship clearly isn't fulfilling both your needs from the sound of it.
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