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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi.My boyfriedn and I have been together for 2 and a half years. He originally pursued me, and I over a few months of dating totally fell for him, and we've been very close since. Initially he treated me like a goddess and seemed to worship the ground I walked on, it was quite strange, but obviously over time that wears off, however, we've been living apart due to jobs for 10 months, and now its seems its more than just worn off. We had plans to live together very soon, now hes delaying a moving date, and I've discovered that hes getting into contact with old female friends from years ago who happen to be attractive, though he's not getting in touch with old male mates. I'm certainly aware that men fantasize about other women, but obviously the fall from the pedestal he placed me on has hurt quite a bit.I'm now concerned that his fantasy's have replaced me during our time apart, and that the far fetched image of a magazine female will cause him to become unsatisfied (if he isnt already), with me and our sex life. I have believed that we will be together for a long time, but I hate to say it but its possible that my ego cannot take being second to his fantasies. I also have felt I can no longer trust him as he is being very secretive about any female friends he has. Altogether I'm curious of others opinions- am I close to messing up a relationship that is normal? Or is this only the start of years of disrespect and agony?
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reader, goodiea +, writes (26 June 2008):
hi there i think that maybe you should seperate because how do you no that hes not cheating on you and thats why he dont want 2 move in so soon anymore.
or maybe you should just tell him exactly how you feel and give him an ultimatum he has 2 spend more time with you or its over and then if he says its over you should ask him if he has been cheatin on you and if he has get rid while you can or before you no it you'll be the 1 getting hurt coz he wont care if hes got another woman
i hope that you are able 2 resolve your troubles
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