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writes:Is it wrong to have male friends and go out with them on ocassion? But behind your boyfriend's back? I ask this because I've had a good guy friend for 2-3 years. We don't talk all the time just when we want to hang out. Initially, we were supossed to start dating but nothing ever happened. Long story short.. We went out a few times and that was that. I got with my boyfriend and he was forgotten for a bit. We've talked a few times on the phone but that's it!He's asked me out and I just change the convo. I guess I want to keep in contact with my male friends but I would hate for my bf to do this behind my back. Or even worse find out and think there's more between us! I hold that respect for my bf that we don't go out with the opposite sex.I've heard that from a guy's pint of view.. A male friend has to be attracted in someway to the gal. Or else he's Gay! Is this true? I believe it goes both ways. Reply to this Question
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reader, DLover  +, writes (18 July 2009):
kinda true that we are attracted to attractive girl friends we have. After all, if we are friends, there is something that attracts us. Might how smart she is, how good she is to help us a bit when we need it... or it might be she's romanticaly attractive.
There is a lot of discussion on the guy side about "how to pass through the friend zone". Your bf will find out someday, it might be better you choose that day or it will be the worse day it can be (according to Murphy's law). The fact that you are going "behind his back" is very revealing of what's going on to me...
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reader, boo22  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 hi there, you're not friends with this guy,end of story. You went out initially with a view to date even though nothings happened yet. Why even bother with feeling guilty afterwards and worrying about what your bf would say if he knew. If you cant tell your bf about what you plan to do, you shouldnt be doing it. Maybe you're a bit bored of your bf?
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